Self-worth or self-esteem
Self-worth is our internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging from others. Being proud of ourselves.
Do you feel that you are a good person who deserves to be treated with respect?
Self-esteem relies on external factors like our achievements, successes and people telling us they are proud of us.
How do you feel about yourself compared to others?
Are you confident in both self-worth and self-esteem?
Self-worth is often confused with self-esteem.
If you have low self-worth, you are unwilling to do much for yourself. You potentially feel unworthy of another person's love and attention. There are feelings of not deserving good things and not believing that you have enough to offer other people. Low self-worth prevents you from believing in yourself and claiming what is yours.
Do you feel unworthy of love or of good things?
Self-esteem is how you feel about yourself in different areas, like intelligence, personality, appearance, and success. You feel that others are so much more intelligent than you are. They are more beautiful, have better personalities and are all more successful than you are. You believe that you are always one down compared to others.
Do you feel that all your friends are so much more than you? Smarter, more attractive, more fun etc.
The cause
Ultimately it has been your upbringing, childhood emotional neglect.
Your parents/parent figures failed to see, value, and validate your truest self or your emotions enough. If they have not seen you, they cannot really know you, and their love may never seem deep or real.
Now, this does not have to be done with maliciousness it is just that they failed to see the real you. Most of us don’t even realise that this is what happened.
For others, it has been passed on with intent from not very nice parents/parent figures.
Childhood emotional neglect prevents good people from seeing, believing and owning what is good and strong about them.
The answer
Now that you know what is going on, you can heal this aspect of yourself. You can learn to treat both yourself and your feelings differently and change how you feel about yourself in the most profound ways.
You can work on this yourself or with the help of a professional therapist. You will be glad you did.
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