The bliss in expecting nothing
The less you expect, the more you appreciate the way things are.
You may be living with the special events coming in occasionally. You can’t help but set standards or expectations when it comes to how happy they make you feel, the moment they happen again. Unfortunately, seldom do these standards or expectations are met. To put it in another way, when something beautiful happens, it must be really sensational for you to be satisfied enough to consider it as something to be grateful for.
There is actually nothing so wrong about setting standards or expectations. In other words, it’s just normal to anticipate how a particular type of event that’s bound to unfold will go. However, please be aware that there is a difference between anticipating with reference to the past and anticipating while being already thankful for what is yet to come.
Expectations live in the past. Happiness is present. Gratitude is timeless.
If you anticipate while trying to see if a particular type of happening shall satisfy you the same way or even more than it did before, you are not living in the moment. You are only setting standards for happiness.
On the other hand, if you anticipate with an attitude of gratitude, you put yourself in the win-win situation, for whatever happens, you know you are to find bliss. In this way, you are looking forward to great things mysteriously coming in your way…For even before they come to pass, you are already believing that things would be beautiful just the way they are.
Given that, you are allowing yourself to experience the freedom from the fear of the unknown, as you are grateful for how things are meant for you to enjoy or to learn from. This is what living in the moment blossoms from. As a matter of fact, most of the time, the joy in anticipation is even greater than the joy of things actually happening.
Keep on looking at what’s in front of you and constantly practice being grateful for what is.
Be grateful in a way that you are expecting nothing. Find yourself enjoying the moment, without having yourself think about how things could have been nor would have been better. Happiness may be overrated but know for yourself that you can have a lot of reasons to be happy even though things may not seem to go your way. Find bliss even though your past — where your expectations live — is telling you not to.
“ She is clothed with strength and dignity. She laughs without fear of the future.” — Proverbs 31:25
