How To Wrestle Self-Doubt, Fears & Emerge A Winner
The arena is set. You battle fear and anxiety but they are no match against your strength.
It is human nature to have doubts and worries about your abilities, potential, and future. The most skilled and talented would tell you that they at times go through “imposter syndrome.”
We wonder whether we are good enough for the life we dream. We wonder if we will ever get to those goals we aspire for.
If you find yourself in the category of people that have doubts about your goals, know that you are not alone.
In fact, you are in good company and rest assured that you can have victory over self-doubt.
Here is how to take on the giant of worries.
Accept that Self-Doubt is Normal
You must accept that no one has the answers to everything. You can work your hardest and still have some form of doubt creep in.
Don’t beat yourself up for not being the most confident person in the room. Normalize that there are emotions that you will have to pass through repeatedly.
Instead of being bothered by the fact that you feel a certain way, start to understand how your body and mind reacts to self-doubt and anxieties.
Once you do understand your reaction, it helps you to know how self-doubt affects your life and what you need to do to manage the response.
Consider the Worst-Case Scenario
When we allow self-doubt to fester longer than it should, we live in an exaggerated state of mind.
We come up with scenes that do not exist but only feed into the worries. For example, let’s say you are a writer, and you want to submit your work to a big publication.
This is the first time that you are submitting your work so naturally you are a bit hesitant. Your self-doubt is telling you that you shouldn’t try because you will never make it. That you will be mocked by the whole world and considered a failure by everyone.
Self-doubt loves to exaggerate. The reality is that you simply make the attempt to submit. The best-case scenario is that you get your piece published in a new site. The worse case scenario is that you don’t get accepted.
It’s far better to have tried and know what the outcome is than to live in the regret of wondering what could have happened?
Get Comfortable with Taking Action Regardless of Fears
Another way for you to defeat your self-doubt is to get comfortable with taking action regardless of fears and worries.
You can feel worried and doubtful about your potential and still move forward with your goals.
The only real issue that you have with self-doubt is when you allow it to stop you from going after the things you care about.
Feel the fear and still take on the challenge. The more you do this, the less negative emotions will be able to control your life. You move regardless.
Affirm Yourself with the I can Do Spirit
In a world where people intentionally hurt others, you can’t be against your own self.
You must learn to affirm yourself and your self-worth. You affirm yourself by reminding yourself of what you are good at. You affirm yourself by reminding yourself of the times when you felt proud of yourself. You affirm yourself by focusing on the sweet words that have been spoken over your life. You affirm yourself by simply being kind to you.
I once read that it’s good to gather and keep things in a box for your self-care. This box is your happy place. It is filled with things that remind you of what encourages and lights you up.
If you can’t have a physical box, then have a note for yourself that reminds you of your worth.
My favourite note is the Bible Verse that says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengths me.”
That verse is a powerful reminder to me that no matter the difficulty, no matter the doubts and negative thoughts, no matter the nay-sayers, if God is for me, who can stand against me?
Having self-doubt does not make you weak. It does not make you incapable. Having self-doubt is normal. It makes you human. We are all susceptible to those moments when we ask ourselves, who am I?
Understand this whenever worries barge on to your doorstep. As it makes its way through your home, tell yourself that you’ve got this. Arm yourself with truth, positivity, and kindness.
When the doubt tries to intimidate you, stand your ground. Be vocal about the reality. You’d find that you always had control. You always had a say. You can slay your giant. You can have victory.
If you want more strategies about overcoming doubts and going after your goals, grab a copy of my E-Book: Discovering Your Confidence: A Personal Guide.