The Good Morning Text: Do You Love It or Hate It?
How Feelings About Texting Reflect Relationship Compatibility
Texting habits can reveal a lot about our feelings toward someone. A common debate in dating is whether “good morning” texts are sweet or annoying. This discussion dives into how these texts are perceived and what it says about relationship dynamics.
The Original Poster’s Perspective
The original poster (OP) TouchNgo, shared their changing feelings about “good morning” texts. Initially, these texts felt intrusive and annoying, but with a new partner, the reaction was different. Here’s what the OP wrote:
“I’ve always been kind of creeped out by ‘good morning’ and ‘how was your day?’ texts from someone I’m dating. They would often just bristle me into thinking ‘wtf I just woke up, what do you want?’ or ‘my day was the same as it always was, and I just got home.’ So, color me surprised when this guy I’ve gone on a couple of dates with started with ‘good morning’ texts. I waited for the bristle, for the ick. It never came.
That’s how I first thought ‘huh, maybe I like him.’ I messaged good morning back. He messages ‘how was your day?’ at the end of the day and we chat about our days. And I realized that the good morning/good evening texts don’t suck when you actually like the person enough to want to wish them a good morning and hear about their day and get random photos from them about what they’re doing throughout the day.”
Enjoying Text Communication
Many responders loved receiving and sending texts, finding it an essential part of building a connection. The enjoyment of texting often depended on mutual interest and compatibility.
Embarrassed-One12968 shared:
“I love a good texter and honestly have fallen for dudes because of how funny, clever, and well-written their texts were.”
CleanOp02 added:
“I love texting especially with someone who matches my energy and has a sense of humor.”
For these daters, texting was a fun and engaging way to stay connected, especially when both parties were equally invested in the conversation.
Texting as a Dealbreaker
Some participants felt strongly about how texting styles could be a dealbreaker, reflecting deeper compatibility issues. For example, some found frequent texting overwhelming or off-putting.
Itchymouse noted:
“To me, I get the ick when someone is so judgmental they have to pick out something tiny and insignificant that can give them the ick.”
TruGurl expressed:
“I’m more annoyed by people who want to talk on the phone all the time. Phone talking drains me.”
These perspectives highlight that mismatched communication preferences can signal broader incompatibility in a relationship.
The Role of Compatibility
Compatibility played a significant role in how “good morning” texts were received. When both parties were interested, these texts were appreciated and seen as thoughtful gestures.
Push_Forward86 said:
“Yes! The good morning texts, calls before going to bed, stupid memes, so many things change/don’t matter/become endearing when it’s a good match.”
Right_Angle added:
“The sentiment that you are the first thing on someone’s mind when they slip into consciousness, and they want to make sure you know it- priceless.”
When there’s mutual interest, small gestures like “good morning” texts become endearing rather than annoying.
Caution Against False Intimacy
While some enjoyed frequent texting, others warned about the potential for creating a false sense of intimacy. Texting can sometimes make a relationship feel more serious than it actually is.
Emotional-Time7244 advised:
“Be mindful it can create a false sense of intimacy. I learned that is why it makes it harder when things didn’t work out.”
Gamerdad1968 reflected:
“I was thinking about you and would like to communicate that in a way that opens the door to deeper convo.”
These insights suggest that while texting can enhance a relationship, it’s important to be aware of its limitations and ensure it reflects genuine feelings.
Takeaway
The perception of “good morning” texts varies greatly depending on the relationship’s context and the individuals involved. Here’s what we’re taking away:
- Assess Compatibility: Enjoy texting when both partners are equally engaged and interested.
- Understand Preferences: Recognize that communication styles vary and find what works best for you.
- Avoid False Intimacy: Be cautious about mistaking frequent texting for deeper emotional connection.
- Communicate Openly: Ensure clear communication about texting habits and preferences.
Tips to Start the Conversation
Here are three ways to open the dialogue with your partner:
- Acknowledge Their Preferences: “I notice we have different texting habits. Let’s talk about what works best for both of us.”
- Express Your Needs: “I enjoy starting my day with a message from you. How do you feel about morning texts?”
- Find a Balance: “Let’s figure out a texting routine that makes us both feel connected without feeling overwhelmed.”
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