Love is a Fruit Don’t Squeeze it!
Check out my blog where I initially posted: https://lifeisaparadox.wordpress.com/2016/05/03/love-is-a-fruit-dont-squeeze-it/
I believe love is something very beautiful and amazing, which, you cannot explain. But like a thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts; love is one such thing, with several exceptions. The exceptions being how compatible you are with the other person. Here I’m not talking about love between siblings, or mother’s unconditional love. I’m talking about love between two different people who meet each other, develops liking, and, ultimately starts loving each other passionately.
Initially all will be well. Promises will be made that ‘we will be together in the afterlife and the life after’. It will seem that the love can never be broken, and you will be on cloud nine for that period in life. It will feel like you have got everything and you would do everything to spend each and every minute with your love. This is where you need to know that your love is tested, tested very perspicaciously. After a time, everything will seem monotonous, even saying ‘I love you’ will be like ‘eh!’ You will not enjoy the same things you had initially in your relationship. You will feel like you need some change and love is dragging you. This is what I meant by ‘love is a fruit don’t squeeze it’.
As you squeeze the fruit you will find pleasure in drinking the juice, until when the juice is exhausted you will bland. But it’s a test.
In my opinion, there is no such thing as ‘successful relationship without hardship’. There are things like ‘adjustments’ and ‘understandings’ which results into successful relationships.
These two things will not be a problem in the initial phase of love, because you are too much busy making romance, flirting and proving why you are the better half.
Later these two things will play an integral part in a relationship. You have your first fight and it is because you’ve done something terrible (well not cheating!) and you for the first time not liking each other’s company and want to run away from a fight. Well, if you run away then it will be the biggest mistake. If you both understand each other than you will fight over things to sort the matter out. No one is born compatible. You adjust and understand and ultimately you apologize. If these two things are there in a relationship then I believe there is nothing which can break it. There is always a tacit understanding between you and your love.
If your matters cannot be sorted out then I’m afraid none of you wants to adjust, just because you both have similar nature.
Everyone thinks there will be someone made for you. Of course I too believe this. If you have a particular nature of not ‘adjusting’ then your ‘made-for-you’ have to have the adjustment quality.
In short, what I mean is, you will find your ‘made-for-you’ who is totally opposite to your attitude and nature.
Thus for certain things you can adjust and for certain things, your better half will. This will make the fruit eternally juicy and there will always be some spark in the relationship but ultimately it takes some effort and few mistakes. As you learn from your mistakes!
