How Enneagram Ones and Threes Work Together

Ones and Threes are both hard-working and resolved, and have a high level of self-discipline. They may discover they have a shared work ethic because they’re both focused, concentrated on completing tasks and achieving goals, and are willing to put in long hours in order to fulfill their responsibilities. Both types can be idealistic, but they also are able to get down to work and put their ideas into action. They like when roles and responsibilities are clearly defined so they know what they should focus on.

Communication

Ones and Threes will usually feel like they can depend on one another to uphold their end of the work and stay true to their word. Both types appreciate that when communicating with one another, they can stay focused on the matters at hand, and don’t feel the need to discuss accompanying emotions. Ones are practical and honest. They value direct communication and want others to be loyal and trustworthy. Centering discussions around clear directions and actionable steps comes naturally to them. They use logical and straightforward language. Threes respect their productivity, responsibility, and commitment to growth.

Threes are smart, dynamic, and future-oriented. They use optimistic language and push themselves and others to take action. They want others to be direct with them and get right to the point. They often focus their attention on making plans for the future and devising the steps needed to make their ideas happen. Ones usually see Threes as capable, driven, and ambitious. Ones and Threes often have a relationship built on trust and they feel that they can relax around one another, knowing they’ll both get their individual jobs done.

Conflict

Both types want to achieve, but may have different ways of going about it. Ones have an inner critic that usually drives them to accomplish their goals through upright decisions and high standards, while Threes feel a stronger desire to succeed and may overlook details or consider taking shortcuts in order to get there. This can be a point of contention for Ones, who are devoted to their principles and are less likely to change their perfectionist approach when something doesn’t go as planned. To Threes, this may seem judgmental or intolerant. When Threes value efficiency over perfectionism, Ones can perceive this as being deceitful or unethical. They might become critical of Threes’ concern over their reputation more than principle.

Hey, Ones and Threes! Does this describe how you relate to the other Ones and Threes in your workplace? What other insights have you learned about collaborating and communicating well with them? Let us know @myuserguide.