Fuck being chill.
The world of dating has degraded over time.
I’m pissed. After anywhere between 30 and 50 dates with random guys over the past year or so, I’ve learned a few things.
“Chill” is the new cool. Texting turns into this game where people try not to show how much they like the other person. Whoever’s more detached from the other person “wins” at dating.
Messaging back in a reasonable amount of time has become an unrealistic expectation. It’s turned into this game of cat-and-mouse, and I absolutely hate it. It’s not all about the “chase.”
I understand if people can’t respond right away — sometimes things in life happen. But the whole “don’t double-text” rule is complete bullshit.
Text whatever you need to say. There’s no need to play games, and they exhaust the hell outta me. If you’re not interested, then say so. If you are, then say so.
There’s no need to keep guessing about this shit. It annoys me to no end.
Also, if people think I’m overreacting or hyperemotional because I’m a woman, then fuck you, too.
I’m so done with all the fuckboys out there who try to “promise me a good time” or “the best ass-eating I’ve ever had.”
If you seriously want to get laid, that’s not the way to go about it.
I’m so done.
My feelings are what make me passionate. If you say you don’t have a passion, that you just like “chilling,” then to me that means you like sitting around doing nothing.
Sure, I like chilling sometimes just as much as the other person. But if you do that in place of pursuing something you really care about, I can foreshadow the things you’ll say when your hair has turned gray: You’ll regret it.
So stop playing games. Be honest and authentic with people. Dating doesn’t need to devolve into a one-upping game of who-cares-less.
Take a chance. Be yourself. Don’t try so hard to impress someone else. If they’re right for you, chances are, they’ll like you the way you are.
