White Noise
The sound of a relationship ending
Why didn’t you say something before?
When having “the talk” at the point of a relationship when it is likely too late to save it, this question seems to inevitably come up. It is perhaps the most maddening question someone can ask.
Often times, it can feel as though we did say something. Sometimes we feel as though we actually said many things and it just fell on deaf ears. We become white noise, screaming to be heard, but fading into the background.
White Noise: noise containing many frequencies with equal intensities.
We all know that communication is critical to a successful relationship. Communication is defined as, “the imparting or exchanging of information.”
Interestingly, it does not say how that information is exchanged. I guess what is less clear to define, and different for everyone is in what form that communication must be given in order to be received.
Chances are that if you are in a relationship with someone, you are communicating. All. The. Time. In many frequencies and with intensity. But does not communicating effectively negate the communication altogether?
After some time together, I think it is safe to say that we know our partner’s language. We learn to tell when…
