I POSTED this meme (“You are always only talking to yourself”) on my Facebook page about a month ago. The simple reason I believe this is true is because, despite how diverse our experiences are, we are all “One”, and so there is actually no one else we can talk to.
The problem is, of course, that we seldom feel that we are all One.
“Who Am I?”
ONE of the key, fundamental questions in spirituality is “Who am I?”.
The reason this is such an essential question is because the more you ask that question, the closer you get to the deepest part of yourself, which is your “Soul”.
There are different ways of mapping the path from your outer self to you deepest inner self. This one works as well as any other, in my opinion:
- Outer Ego / Social Self / Physical Body & Thoughts / Physical Universe >>
- > Inner Ego / Emotional Body / Personality >>
- > Astral Body / Energy Body >>
- > Mental Body / Causal Body >>
- > Individual Soul / Consciousness / Self Realization >>
- > Smaller & Larger Soul Groups & Families >>
- > Oversouls >>
- > Universal Soul / Universal Mind / Pure Consciousness / The Unified Field / Unity Consciousness/Realization >>
- > God / The Absolute / Source / All That Is / The Unmanifested / God Consciousness/Realization
Although each of these levels may seem very distinct, there is actually no clear line between them, except maybe at the level of God where one moves from the manifest or phenomenal realm for forms to the unimanifested realm of the formless.
For all of the others there is a gradual transition from one level to the next. The categories above are simply provided to point to the trajectory of that transition. The need to categorize like this is a human experience that does not really exist at deeper levels of experience.
What is most important, and most confusing to many, is that we maintain our identity, our feeling of “I am” and “this is me”, through every level of self, from the ego to Source.
For more on “who am I?”, see:
Which “You” Are You?
From “small i” to “Big I”, defining “you” spiritually is complicated but needed.
For more on the ego, see:
Explainer: Spiritual Perspectives On The Ego
Looking at 25 definitions of “Ego” there are 5 general ways that people use that word.
For more on the soul, see:
The Outer Ego
THERE are many different understandings of “ego”. The model above uses the term “outer ego” to more clearly define the ego as that part of you that is defined by others. It includes what society and others expect you to be, how others expect you to behave, and how you think you “should” think and act in this incarnation.
Our outer ego was mostly formed in early childhood to enable us to fully perform in our physical and social world by forgetting our that our true nature is beyond the physical.
Thus, the “outer ego” is fully embedded in physical reality. It attempts to understand reality by dividing and then comparing the differences. This form of logic works very well in helping us to navigate and discern physical live on Earth.
Our ego’s ability to divide and compare all aspects of our world also enables us to experience the greatest diversity that the planet has to offer, from the highest highs to the lowest vibrational lows.
For example, it is from the perspective of the Outer Ego, that we have Dark Night of the Soul experiences, where we feel that everything is wrong and out of place, especially me. We are basically dividing our self from the entire world. This is how the ego attempts to understand itself.
The ego’s process of dividing and separating our self from others (or maybe just other egos) and our world might be the furthest manifestation from the “Oneness” of God / Source that is possible.
For more on the ego, see:
Going Into the Self
GOING into one’s self is moving in the opposite direction of the outer ego. This path has been likened to unpeeling an onion. There is layer upon layer until you get to the final layer and then nothing remains.
As one goes deeper, the following changes generally apply:
- Reality is less diverse and more simple the deeper one goes.
- Time becomes more flexible and almost disappears at the deepest levels.
- Desires become fewer and weaker, as the ego and personality weaken with each deeper level.
- Intelligence, awareness and energy/love (sat chit and ananda) all increase in clarity and strength.
- Happiness and contentment increases the less ego centered one becomes.
- Manifesting is more powerful the deeper one goes — it is said that “instant manifestations” are possible at the deepest Soul level.
- Separation becomes less as individuality dissolves into collective forms of consciousness and Oneness— at the Universal Soul level there is only one consciousness that is the same for every being and entity in the universe.
“You are Always Only Talking to Yourself”
BASED on the cosmological map presented above, which is generally shared by most all New Age belief systems these days, we are each unique individuals at one level, and we are all connected and one at our opposite level. We are each an individual manifestation of the Universal Soul and God.
Another way to put this is that each of us is God / Source pretending to a separate being. One definition of “awakening” is coming to realize that we are our Soul, and having the experience that we are all One (this sometimes called Unity Consciousness).
Yet another way of understanding this that the world is a mirror of yourself and you are only ever looking at yourself. If you have devils, if you have dimensions, if you encounter disagreements, then say hello to yourself.
For more on this third perspective, see:
Life, the Universe, and Existence Is Always Perfect in Every Way
[Updated April 4, 2021] But a perfect universe still needs spiritual activists to evolve and ascend.
Thus, from that perspective of the Universal Mind, which is who we truly are, we are always and only talking to, and interacting with, our self. This applies to the people we meet and the environments we interact within — we are all One.
Navigating Separation & Oneness
These, of course, are two extremes — being either totally separate or totally one with everyone and everything.
There are also intermediary levels of soul groupings that we are a part of. We tend to have closer Earth incarnational relationships with our soul family siblings from those levels, although in the end all levels dissolve into the Universal Soul.
Separation comes easy for us, because, as noted above, that is what our Outer Ego has learned from infancy on.
There is nothing wrong with “pretending” that we are all separate and talking to others who are not us. That is what we came into this Earth incarnation to experience separation in a deeper way than we could in any of the other levels or dimensions of reality.
Experiencing Oneness is much more challenging. It is something that we mostly come to know as a possibility in our adult years, and which some of us spend a lifetime trying to achieve. That is simply because if we simply knew Oneness our entire life we would not be able to experience all that physical reality has to offer.
Many of us, however, have had glimpses of Oneness and Unity Consciousness — enough to stoke our desire for more. That in itself is one of the great experiences of physical reality — to move from separation to Oneness.
In the end, though, there is great comfort and wisdom that can be gained in our experiences of separation if we at least know that we are more than our ego and our ego’s interactions with others and our planet, and that we are all truly connected to each other.
This article reflects ideas that I have expanded on in many other articles, including, but not limited to:
Life is Both Diversity and Oneness — at the Same Time
[Updated Sept 4, 2020] It’s all about vibrations, timelines, and the play of the universe.