You may feel unlucky because of what’s happened in your life.
People could be getting their dream jobs, finding compatible partners, buying houses, and living their best lives. For you, life may have been a series of painful memories, things going against you, and unlucky breaks. You may have known misfortune, sadness, and grief.
I was feeling rather unlucky in my life about a decade back after the pain and heartache of divorce. I lost my home, marriage, career, and hope in less than a year’s time. I was feeling like one of the unluckiest people I knew.
All around me, people seemed to be fulfilling their dreams and getting what they wanted… but my life seemed to have become a tale of misfortune and failure.
You might be wondering like I did, how we keep getting the short end of the stick when it comes to luck. You might be wondering if you’re cursed and why you never get a lucky break.
What I’ve since found out is you can change your perspective towards luck and can actually get Lady Luck on your side. How you view luck and embrace luck has a lot to do with how lucky you are.
9 Ways to Become the Luckiest Person You Know
1. See how everything is working out for your highest good.
Regardless of the circumstances in your life, you start viewing your experiences as preparing you for something better and for the highest good. Failures, disappointments, and setbacks are simply helping you figure things out so that you can move forward towards more opportunities. Everything is to be seen as learning experiences and wisdom that you can use in the future.
For example, my divorce was the most painful experience but it also set me up to get better at relationships and get better at choosing partners. Having a relationship that didn’t work out is moving me closer to a relationship that will work and work well.
The most painful relationship in my life is helping me move towards the best one I can have. My most unfortunate experience is setting me up for the highest good.
2. Do the things that are in your power.
You have to focus less on what happens around you and the circumstances in your life. You know that you can’t always change the world around you or even the situation sometimes. You know there are relationships, business challenges, and health challenges that are outside of your control. What lucky people do instead is everything in their power to change what they can.
You make small improvements, find people to help, seek out experts and find ways to solve the challenges you’re facing. You know that little improvements over a period of time will help you improve the situation you find yourself in. You surrender to the external happenings of the world and work diligently to improve what you can. When you do what’s in your power, you find yourself getting lucky breaks.
3. Look for the good in every situation.
You’d think that there’s nothing good that could come of a divorce. Yet, there I was discovering myself for the first time in my life. I started reflecting on what went wrong, started going to therapy, and had to work on my self-esteem. I had to heal life-long wounds, face inner demons and do the work of improving my life. I started writing and blogging about my experiences which led to an online business.
The worst thing in my life led to some of the best things in my life. I became emotionally healthier, became a better partner in relationships, and changed my vocation because of my divorce. There can be good things even in pandemic times and with things like health challenges or divorce.
For example, pandemic times had made many of us go within and discover what truly matters. Health challenges give us time to rest and work on our physical bodies. Divorce helps us re-prioritize our life and helps us figure out what we really want. It helps us grow as people and get better at relationships.
Lucky people find the good in every situation.
4. Believe that other people’s success is good luck for you.
Lucky people don’t judge and feel small about other people’s success. They see others succeeding and look at what’s possible. If others can get a lucky break, then you can too. If things can work out for someone else, it can for you too.
Lucky people get inspired by other people getting lucky because they know there’s plenty of luck in the world. They know that luck is abundant and everywhere. It’s not scarce and it doesn’t run out. The more lucky opportunities that are available for others, the more lucky breaks that are available for you.
Lucky people are not caught up with who’s lucky. They embrace the abundance of luck in the world and celebrate luck that comes to every person.
5. Feel lucky all of the time.
Lucky people feel that their luck is about to turn for the better all the time. You feel like luck is on your side and always ready to show up. You feel good about luck and look to find luck all around you. You feel lucky all the time because you see and acknowledge the luck around you.
An empty parking spot, an open table at your favorite restaurant, or someone paying you a compliment. A dollar on the floor, a free drink out of the vending machine, or a free seat on the airplane. Lucky people take all their lucky breaks and carry that spirit of luck around with them.
You walk around each day asking what lucky thing is going to happen to you. You know you’re lucky because of all the luck that has already come into your life and you stay expectant about luck. You believe even more luck is going to come into your life.
6. See the blessing in everything around you.
Lucky people are happy for everyone and everything that comes into their lives. For example, I had to come to see my divorce as a blessing. Lucky people come to look for the blessing in whatever they are experiencing — good or bad. They see the blessing in the empty seat or parking spot. They see the blessing in their jobs and having the family they do. They also see the blessing in the heartbreak, illness, or loss of a loved one.
There is something to be appreciated in everything in their life. Lucky people are walking around with so much gratitude for whatever it is that comes into their life, that they can’t help but draw luck to them. Gratitude attracts luck. People who are appreciative of all the things in their life attract more lucky breaks that bring more of those things into their life.
7. Release anger, resentment, grudges, and victimhood.
You need the space and energy for luck. You cannot go about the world filled with anger, resentment, and grudges. Lucky people find ways to forgive people for their trespasses and transgressions. They know that if they focus on what other people did to them, they’ll be distracted from living a lucky life. They know they can’t hold the energy of resentment and the energy of luck at the same time so they choose to forgive and let go.
They also don’t see themselves as victims of their life stories. No matter how bad the situation or dire their life circumstances, lucky people see themselves as the hero of their own story. They know that they have the power to change their own lives and get lucky along the way.
8. Believe in signs, and coincidences of the world.
Lucky people see how everything is connected in the world. Things just don’t just happen for no reason. Lucky people are regularly looking out for the signs of lucky things that are happening. They are looking for numbers, colors, and symbols around them as signs of luck.
When something unexpected or surprising happens, they don’t ignore it but try to look at what about that incident was lucky. They try to understand the coincidences of the world around them and find the connection between disconnected events.
Everything happens for a reason and ultimately, they believe it’s for a lucky reason. They are more observant of the world around them and affirm lucky events happening.
9. Giving and sharing with the people around you
Lucky people know that secret to luck is giving. The more you give freely and voluntarily, the more luck you get. Lucky people help others without being asked, give their time willingly, and donate freely. You look out for others, mentor them and guide them. Lucky people care about other people.
You believe in the Golden rule that what goes around will come around. If you help, give and create luck for others, you know that luck will come looking for you. Lucky people are generous and giving people. You know that the more you give, the more you get. The more luck you create for others, the more luck comes into your life.
You create your own luck
You can become the luckiest person you know. Instead of seeing my life as one of sadness and misfortune, I started implementing the luck mindset into my life. I didn’t let my own divorce and loss consume my life. Instead, I started implementing many of these ideas that I mention here and find myself to be the luckiest person I know.
Today, I realize that I’m lucky for no longer being in a relationship that didn’t fit. I’m lucky that I could move across the world and pursue my dreams. I’m lucky that the pandemic offered me plenty of opportunities to write, to publish and to sell more books last year than I’ve ever sold before. I’m lucky for the travels and experiences that I’ve had in my life of late.
You can create your own luck each and every day by shifting your perspective, being grateful, and expecting bo be luckier in your life.
The secret to being lucky is:
- Shifting your perspective
- Doing what you can and what’s in your power
- Looking for the good in every situation
- Believing that other people’s luck is contagious
- Feeling lucky all the time
- Being grateful for everything around you
- Releasing anger, resentment, grudges, and victimhood
- Believe in the signs and symbols of luck
- Give more to others and create more luck for yourself
Do you consider yourself a lucky person? How do you cultivate luck in your life? Leave me a comment below.