LIVING ALONE AND AWAY FROM HOME
From becoming an early riser to cooking my own meals, a number of lessons learnt.
My father is the youngest of nine children and I’m the youngest of his three. I don’t know if this status of being the youngest in the clan, makes any difference or not but I was that typical brat who never entered the kitchen to even help herself with a cup of tea. The rebellious girl that I was, my family had no hopes that I would ever become a responsible person. But moving out of the city (country, continent) has taught me some very valuable lessons.
- Cooking is a mandatory art (skill, whatever you call it).
Not because the stomach is the best way to get to a man’s house, but because, you have to survive. I was always a fan of healthy food, and never ate out more than twice a week. How people in this country eat out daily, I do not know but I really can’t. Plus, it is an expensive city and I’m still a student (otherwise I could sign up for a home-cooked-meal-plan).
If you are a novice like me, hit the internet up for easy-to-cook recipes. It never disappoints.
2. I can take messy but not filthy!
There’s a difference between messy and filthy, if you aren’t aware, I’m happy to give you an example: An unmade bed is messy, but an un-swept house is filthy. Get the point?
I hate dirty dishes in the sink. (It’s going to be the first line in my description on Craigslist when I look for apartments and roommates this Summer)
3. Who loves me and who loves me.. NOT!
When you have a large group of friends, sometimes you can’t make out who really adores you. Of course, besties remain, but it’s those “ok-friends” come under a huge bracket. I have learnt who loves me how much. Even a few acquaintances reached out to me. This has helped me stop running after people who do not deserve it. If they don’t care for you when you are thousands of miles away, will they do when you are close-by?
4. Money Matters
You were expecting this one, weren’t you? Living alone, I have realized how much my monthly expenses are and how much I need to earn to meet them. Asking dad for money is not very cool, you know? Plus, the feeling of independence something one needs to experience to believe.
5. Socializing is indispensable
Spending time by yourself is great, but socializing is equally important.The world is filled with more beautiful souls that you think. So when you live alone and miss hugs and kisses from and talks with your folks, remember it is not the end of the road. Make new friends (they may or may not replace your folks but will only add to your lovelies).
It is also important to socialize when living in a new city because nobody knows you there, you have build your identity from scratch.
6. Rising early is really a success mantra
I was a staunch nocturnal. I didn’t know what early morning looked like. But with classes starting at 9 am, sleeping at 3 or 4 am is exhausting. So I decided to become an early riser. I admit that it was not easy at all, and I’m still learning to become one (there are those all-nighters I do sometimes), but it is worth the effort. Here are tips for you to learn, nocturnals. I have experienced the huge difference between getting a meagre 3 hours of sleep and a sound 8 hours . Trust me, the latter is far more rewarding than you think. Read this for a better insight on why getting sufficient sleep is important.
Also, who wants dark circles?? Twenties is a time to look pretty! ;)
I highly recommend living alone for a journey of self-discovery. Do it! If you have lived alone before, tell me your experiences in the comments below.