Who told you delay is not denial?
Suck it up, count your losses, and go back home. They’re mostly the same.
I’ve spent the last decade selling to customers and closing corporate deals. I know this truth like the back of my hand: the first sign of a lost deal is delayed communication.
Once I hear “We’ll get back to you,” the show is over.
The most money I’ve lost in my life came from investments where I delayed my withdrawal.
Any developer who can’t get in sync with the team and the tech stack within a month is destined to fail.
University admissions are simple. If you’re going to get in, your name will be on the first batch.
A girl who really wants to date you won’t take a year, urgent 2k, transport fee, and an iPhone 16 before deciding to say “Yes.”
But your wife kept you in her DM for over a year before she said “Yes,” right?
I know. I know.
My mind told me you’d bring that argument up.
Here’s the deal:
Exceptions are not the rule.
I’m not your pastor, and even if I were, today’s sermon isn’t about patting you on the back and telling you “your case is different.”
Honestly, it’s not. Your case is as messy and shitty as the rest of ours.
Delay is delayed. Denial is denial. What’s delayed is already denied in time.
Why save sex for old age?
You’re wondering if you’re reading me right. Yes, you are.
So am I suggesting you quit trying in the face of a delay?
No! Obviously not.
I’m more of the pragmatic view that great minds are forged in the corridor of waiting.
It’s better to take your mind off the waiting and refocus on finding meaning in the here and now.
This waiting window is your perfect opportunity to pick up new skills, meet new people, find a mentor, and hone your craft.
It’s your chance to earn money before the admission comes through. It’s the right moment to add new features to your products.
If you’re waiting, do what waiters do – serve!
Create more value! Stretch out in new directions. Take on new hobbies. Become better.
And if the opportunity later falls off or falls through, you’ll be stronger for it.
I believe in your greatness. Believe in yourself, and don’t let any delayed opportunity keep you from what you’re capable of doing.
I’ll write tomorrow. While you wait, meditate on these words and serve them to others.
