Dating dilemmas
Dating Can Be a Bear — Is the Problem Me or Is It You?
Especially when you tell me about me in unhelpful ways
I have been single often, and currently for a very long time. To quote Taylor Swift, I’m The Problem.
Only not entirely. The rest of the problem is dating “norms” that change with the times, as well as — let’s just say it — the men I’ve dated.
In spite of my concerns about certain types of men and their approaches to dating me, I take full responsibility for the dating and relationship decisions that led me to this juncture of long-term singleness.
One where I’m happy, busy, fulfilled and continually growing. One where I also would like to have a partner and may finally be ready.
I’m aware I’ve chased men off with chips on my shoulder, guardedness, over-enthusiasm too early, and probably a slew of other faults outside my awareness. When I’ve become aware of the stumbling blocks I scatter along the road to relationship, I’ve worked on changing and improving.
I’ll continue to work on improving when someone I’m dating makes me aware of the need. It will help if they do it, too.
Awareness and willingness to change are key.