Love & Relationships

You Don’t Need To Be in A Romantic Relationship to Feel Loved on Valentine’s Day 💖💗💛💙💚💛💞

There is an endless supply of love available to you today and every day from the only one who truly knows how to love us

Orla K.
New Creation
Published in
4 min readFeb 14

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“And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them.”

1 John 4:16

Whether you are married, single, divorced, or widowed, remember this, you are loved with an everlasting love.

Romantic love can never replace the love God has for you. The best way to enjoy your relationship is to first let the love of God dwell in you, then you will be filled up enough to be able to share that love with your spouse.

If you are not married but want to get married, know that the love you need comes from God and not your partner. When you expect your partner to give you love, you are going to run into problems.

When you are in a relationship with the Lord Jesus, you have a continuous supply of love, so you don’t have to go to someone else for this love.

God loves you — you don’t need that love from anyone. Instead, you can share love with your spouse and be a blessing to others.

Children need love from their caregivers to survive and thrive but as adults, we should not be trying to get those childhood needs met in our relationships today.

God can heal us of any pain we may have suffered in our past.

Why are you getting married at this time?

With so many marriages ending in divorce today, it is wise to ask yourself, “why am I getting married now?”

People tend to rush into marriage without even asking themselves why they are in such a hurry.

If you need to be in a relationship in order to feel happy, then you may be suffering from what’s known as, ‘relationship addiction.’

If you have not learned how to be alone, then you may find yourself jumping from one relationship to another, hoping to fill that empty feeling inside of you.

The other side of this problem is when a couple gets married too soon and start to have problems in the relationship. They may stay together for years, even though the relationship is not loving, and in some cases even abusive.

This is not God’s design for marriage. God designed marriage to be a loving union between a man and a woman and the intention is for it to last until one of the them dies.

Relationship addiction defined

“Relationship addiction is characterized by cravings and a loss of control when it comes to being in a relationship with a specific person. Like love addicts, people with relationship addiction seek feelings of euphoria and gain intense chemical reactions and releases while in pursuit of or in a relationship.

While it is normal to feel longing and as if you cannot deny the love of your life, relationship addiction is characterized by needing a relationship to be happy. This person cannot be alone and can jump in and out of different relationships, regardless of its impact on them. Or they can stay in the same unstable and complicated relationship full of drama, make-up-to-break-up patterns, arguments, and betrayal as opposed to being alone.”

Addiction Centre

Although it is nice to be in a romantic relationship, it is not very pleasant if it is unhealthy and you don’t know how to fix the problems.

If you take the time to look at your own relationship history and examine areas that are making it difficult for you to give and receive love today, you will be able to recover from past traumas.

Many of these problems stem from childhood and if they are not addressed, they will carry on into your marriage.

If you are not yet married, this is good news for you as you can work on your childhood or past relationship wounds and develop your relationship with yourself and God.

When you heal these wounds, you can then choose a healthy partner, but you will not be coming from a place of lack.

But if you are married and having difficulties in your marriage, it may be best to discuss the problems with your spouse or seek the advice of your pastor, priest, relationship counselor or coach.

Below is an article I wrote about how love healed me…

Also, I found this lovely piece today by Esther O entitled, “Dear girls… Fall in Love With Yourself First.”

Another beautiful article I found is by Poonam Vashist. She encourages us to love ourselves and in that way, we will be able to love others.

I couldn’t agree more. “Be your own Valentine” — Love Yourself, Be Happy

Happy Valentine’s Day!!

You are loved. 💖💗💖💞💖💟💕💖

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Orla K.
New Creation

Learn about mental, emotional, and spiritual heath. Top writer in Travel. You can also find me on Substack: https://orla.substack.com/archive