Conversion from Regrets to Learning, by Forgiving Ourself
Regrets can be the first sign of reconciliation with a mistake, but we need to forgive ourselves to use the regret.
Everyone makes mistakes. We think mistakes are not normal to make, because we think everything should be perfect. But unfortunately, nothing is perfect.
Stephen Hawking once said:
One of the basic rules of the universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist. Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist.
Hawking assures us, we are a compilation of everything we do. Anything can be perfect or imperfect; you can be right or wrong, sometimes accurate sometimes inaccurate, you grow your understanding or simply misunderstand reality. One time win, another time lose. It is not always easy to say that everything is going to be alright.
It is a challenge to develop learning after mistakes.
How do we educate ourselves after being inaccurate, or misunderstanding? How do we learn after our mistakes?
The Power of Regrets
Mistakes may create regrets. This feeling, of regret, is the first sign of reconciliation with a mistake. Regret can be a code for the beginning of conversion from a mistake to a lesson because we are aware that imperfection happens.
It is a sign to move forward.
We can observe, the mistake has been done, the damage is real. We observe a sense of regrets within us. Then, we need to do one important thing: to forgive. Because we are going to release the energy of regrets within us, by forgiveness. By forgiving ourselves.
Forgiving ourselves doesn’t mean we ignore all our mistakes. It means we are not falling into a state of denial. We are releasing regrets to empower ourselves.
The key to using the power of regrets is to forgive ourselves.
As Louise Hay puts it:
Forgiveness is for yourself because it frees you.
Be free. Forgive yourself.
