Deal With Toxic People.
Choose between react or respond.
There is a concept called slagging in cricket. and slagging is low class, it’s cheap where the opposite team comes and abuse other team members, they try to distract them from their game and take their focus away. But some players are cool slagging does not affect them so they just can’t lose their focus.
Are you cool? Or you loose your patience when people do slugging against you in the game of life.
- Something’s are beyond our control.
Can you stop the guy from utilizing you? No, you can’t do anything. These is things that are out of our control. People are out of control sometimes we can’t control what people say about you, what they think about you. Sometimes situations are also out of our control. We planned something that does not happen even after giving our best a lot of things, situations, people are just out of our control. How many of you think “ the question paper is in our control?”
Don’t consume your mind with something that we can’t do anything about it. Why are we consuming our mind that is completely Beyond of scope to do anything? 70% of our mind is occupied by things like this, statistics 70 % of your mind you have no control over.
- Establish boundaries
The fact is anywhere we go we are going to find toxic people. Chang the place or change of situation doesn’t necessary for such people. We should certainly do what we can to positively change things around us but when we know that we have done our best and things still remain the same. We should shift our focus to the priorities to our growth and then we won’t be as much affected by the negativity around us.
- Don’t react do respond
Learn this masterstroke “not to react but to respond”
In our life, we will always have a stimulus and we can choose to respond because between stimulus and response is our choice. Any calm person he/she is by their choice and therefore when they all kind of stimulus we have to learn how to respond. Easier said than then done again. If we are not strong spiritually is impossible, if we are not strong culturally it is impossible.
Don’t ask why “why this happened?” ask How “ how can i deal with it”
So the question why that has no answer or no satisfying answer. Because there is a factor beyond our control. This is not just based on and then don’t ask why because you will never get as an answer, ask how to tell yourself I don’t want to react I want to respond.
I’m 19 year’s old and I face many negative people, all of us do, they are just bad news. Negative people leaves you speechless, you can completely lose your confidence because of them so I always try to stay calm and just focus on myself only
When we focus on our priorities we don’t have time for drama around us, others mistakes, gossip, politics, negativity, etc..
