Tame Your Expectations: Expect More from Yourself, Not Others
The best of relationships are made upon what we can offer, not on what we receive.
In today’s world, it’s disheartening to witness the state of many relationships and friendships — often strained and dysfunctional. People tend to harbour grudges and express dissatisfaction when their expectations remain unmet.
But how often do we stop and wonder if we, too, meet the expectations of others?
It has become evident to me that striving to meet others’ every expectation or expecting too much from them is akin to falling into a bottomless pit. There’s no light at the end of this tunnel, and once trapped, resentment starts brewing deep within, wanting to explode someday.
I’ve encountered countless hostile responses when suggesting to others the importance of focusing on what they can offer, rather than constantly seeking what others can do for them.
While I do have some expectations from others, I’ve learned to keep them minimal. Over time, I’ve realized that unmet expectations are often the root cause of crumbling relationships.
It baffles me why people fail to recognize this simple truth — that unrealistic expectations pave the way for their own unhappiness and unfulfilled lives. Don’t they see this?
Instead of placing excessive expectations on others, why not channel that energy into expecting more from ourselves?
It’s a constant battle, not with myself, but with others to tame their expectations out of me. How can you possibly do that?
When I don’t want to give my time and energy, I try to explain a few times that I am not willing to do what they want, and if they still persist, I bluntly refuse. It hurts me every time I have to do this, but what can I do?
Those who might not understand this and remain relentless, get hurt but I value my inner peace and free time more than anything.
I know it’s brutal, it’s not polite. I hate doing this. I absolutely hate confrontation, but then what can I do when I am pushed into a corner, when I had already said, No!
I don’t want a relationship or companionship that repeatedly draws on my time and energy against my wish. It’s as simple as that.
Embracing the philosophy of expecting more from myself has led me to a more fulfilling and enriched life. By focusing on personal growth and self-improvement, we can effortlessly break free from the cycle of unrealistic expectations.
Remember, the journey of self-discovery is a powerful one. As we navigate our paths, we can inspire those around us to do the same.
By living through our example, we can teach others the significance of offering kindness, understanding, and support rather than seeking validation from external sources or making others your crutch.
This is the only way we can lay the groundwork for a future where relationships flourish through mutual respect, empathy, and genuine connections rather than solely focusing on what you can do for me.
