13 Reasons Why
It is difficult to be kind. We struggle with our own demons on daily basis and just when we cannot hold the internal fight any longer, we lash out and turn our anger onto someone else. It is a human thing to do, without a doubt experienced all at some point in our busy lives. As is often the case, the things we do and say often affect those around us in ways we cannot predict and result in damage that is not always outwardly apparent — humans are insanely complex creatures and as such it is difficult to predict their behaviour and responses.
sonder n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own — populated with their own ambitions, friends, routines, worries and inherited craziness.
In rare moments we may glimpse the fact that the person sitting next to you on the bus is living a life just as complex as you are, that feeling of sonderness is unique. Humans seem incapable of full comprehending the complexity of life of others simply because they lack space in their brain for all the additional details — as a result we ‘flatten’ people’s immersive lives into two-dimensional representations to make it easier for us to interact with them. We tend to care about what they like or don’t like (the end product) rather than why they have made that preference (the journey that made them get to that stage).
The new Netflix adaptation of the book “Thirteen Reasons Why” showcases a story of a girl, Hannah Baker, who commits suicide because of the treatment she received from the people around her. The series is binge worthy and will make you think as you move from “tape to tape”.
The whole series really makes you think of the impact our tiny interactions have on the world around us and how they can concatenate and result in things we never expected in the first place. The complexity of our reality can be overwhelming, but without a doubt it is us who make things so complex in the first place — the unwritten rules, social norms, and expectations put pressure on everyone. It is truly devastating that some of us are extinguished by them and find a permanent ‘solution’ to a temporary problem.