Are you familiar with the story of Job in the bible? Well, let’s summarize for those who don’t know.
Job was a rich man who God loved. Then one day, (for some fucked up reason) God told the devil to go fuck Job up. The devil got to work and wrecked Job.
He went to town on Job. Gave him leprosy, killed his children and cattle…left his wife to stay and nag. He really fucked him up but that’s not the punch line.
The punch line is that Job said “the thing I feared the most has come upon me”
I learned some time ago that while we live in a 3D world, there is a 4th dimension of time and we access it through our imagination. Whatever we put into our imagination and sustain with emotion will eventually cast a shadow in the 3D world for us to experience. Now that’s where fear comes in.
Fear is based on the human survival code so I guess it keeps us alive. Let’s put it this way; it kept our forefathers alive because they had to navigate fear in order to eat. Fear heightened their instincts so they could avoid predators. However, the world today has changed and fear does not do much for us — but we still have a hard time getting rid of it.
Fear doesn't necessarily mean horror. When a person fears a thing, it usually means that they don’t know what they would do if that thing should happen and that feeling of hopelessness cripples them. It should also be noted that every fear is only precedence. We can never fear anything that has already happened; we only fear what has not happened yet. So fear is in a way very silly when you analyze it — and yet, in this analysis holds the key to overcoming it.
Why are you afraid?
Motivational speakers say ‘face your fear’ but that’s hard. It’s like saying ‘Smoke your water’. Uhh, the mere fact that we can’t face it is what makes it a fear in the first place right? However, the truth is that as long as we fear something, it will hold us back in our life experience. That being said, anyone who wants to experience something which fear has held them back from, must first know why they are afraid.
I’m no shrink but I believe that when they say “face your fears”, it means confronting the reason why you are afraid — in your mind.
If a mortal danger is in question, such as coming face to face with a hungry lion, sure fear is a valid response. You can clearly see that death is an option so survival is bound to kick in — we understand that. The fears we are talking about here are those fears that are quietly limiting us. I don’t need to spell them out, we know what we are afraid of. The question is WHY?
Fear or Caution?
Most fears are irrational while caution is rational. A person once said, “I’m not scared of heights, it’s falling to my death that worries me”. While that’s a joke, it combines the concept of fear and caution into one. Surely everyone who is afraid of heights will want to rationalize the fact that they could fall off. But a person who refuses to experience heights — despite being assured of all the safety measures put in place to avoid an incident, is dealing with raw fear and not being cautious.
Caution weighs risks. For example, caution would make a person look both ways before crossing the road. Caution would also tell you it’s a bad idea to cross the road blindfolded but fear will cause shivers to her victim even when the road is free.
Caution will ask the question. “If it goes wrong, how bad will it be?”. For example: If I encounter an unfamiliar dog, I’ll ask questions based on caution. Does he bite? should I be worried about anything? But a person who is afraid of dogs will play out all the terrible scenarios (that they have heard and probably never experienced) and then live in that imaginary world of danger — making it such that they never experience dogs.
Fear is in the mind
and it is only in the mind that we can overcome it.
- Find out why you are afraid
- Realize that it hasn’t happened yet — and continually thinking about it will only increase the chances of it happening
- Trust — most fears are feared because we don’t believe we can handle them. C’mon give yourself some credit. Whatever you are afraid of has happened to somebody already and they were fine.
- Think ‘worst-case scenario’ — so what if it happens? Will it be the end of the world? Then remember the times you had experienced terrible things and how life continued after that. Chances are that at the point the fears were being realized, they didn’t even feel that bad.
That being said, if a person decides to wallow in fear. If a person does not find the will-power to shift their focus while the fear is is still formless, then like every other sustained emotion, it will materialize in form and it will be brutal.
The power is and will always be in our hands. We get to choose our thoughts and feelings and just because something happened to someone else, doesn't mean it will happen to everyone — it doesn't work that way.
Fear, like our entire projected reality, is an illusion — holding on to it is what makes it powerful. To experience life, you gotta let go of fear. Use caution where necessary and trust the universe and yourself. We are all intentionally here — so let’s live intentionally.