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You choose your environment

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By now, we all we’re aware of how greatly we’re influenced by what we see on TV or in the pages of a magazine. We might not always act on this awareness, but we do realise the damaging effect of the media and entertainment industry.

And yet, we forget that these aren’t the only things influencing us daily; we forget that our environment is influencing us hundreds of times per day, whether that’s a fatphobic comment by a friend or a fitness account on Instagram. We are the product of everything we see, hear, say and do.

A lot of things may be out of our control when it comes to our environment, but we still have a say in the people we surround ourselves with. We still choose the media we consume, the books we pick up in a store, and the places we spend our time.

You can choose who and what you surround yourself with. You can choose to distance yourself from people that don’t share your values. You can choose to mute or unfollow accounts that don’t bring you joy. You can choose to work towards your goals and surround yourself with things that fuel this.

Take the agency in your surroundings, even when it feels selfish.

Try to do the following this month:

  1. Try to keep track of how you feel after using a social media platform. If you notice certain accounts make you feel negative emotions, remove them. And replace each one with an account that makes you feel good.
  2. Take charge of your time. Choose carefully how you spend it, whether that’s going for a walk, reading a book, seeing a friend or none of those things. Remember that time is your currency so spend it wisely, don’t just give it away.
  3. Choose your media carefully. That doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a Netflix binge — go for it! But avoid things that make you feel worse about yourself. What you watch is what you support.

Love,

Fleurine

“When’s the time I’m gonna say “I love you”
And know what it really means to let it seep through?
I’m so tired of soaking up the subtleties”

Subtleties (Never Giving Up on You), The Regrettes

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Fleurine Tideman

Fleurine Tideman

Just another millennial content writer who thinks they have something to say. Mail: info@byfleurine.com | Twitter: @ByFleurine| Blog: Symptomsofliving.com