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You’ll never regret taking a break

For the full experience, listen to London Knows — Anna Straker

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Like many others, I got swept down by sickness (not COVID). I spent most of the last week on the couch or in bed, coughing heavily and living almost entirely on cups of tea. As we emerge from our lockdown cocoons, it’s only natural that our immune systems aren’t prepared for the influx of bacteria and viruses. Almost everyone I know has recently been sick. With this in mind, you’d think that I accepted this chest infection graciously and willingly took the time to rest. You would be mistaken.

I hate not being productive. This isn’t to say that I am a well-oiled machine that runs endlessly, as I’m often sidelined by illness, depression, hangovers or simple laziness. But I detest every moment of it, and I’m quick to beat myself up for these bouts of unproductivity. So I didn’t welcome this week off; at first, I tried to fight it, force myself to keep working and berate myself for my ineffectiveness. But with my roommate’s unsubtle nudging, I came to accept this time off. Even though that voice in my head kept telling me that I was too far from my goals to be spending a day rewatching Grey’s Anatomy, I pushed past it.

Sometimes our bodies need rest, and other times our minds need rest. It’s tempting to fight against this urge, but remind yourself of the following:

  1. Resting now means you’ll need less time to recover than if you continue to push against your boundaries.
  2. Any work you get done now will not be of your best quality. So rather than writing 500 words of crap today, rest so you can write 1,000 better words tomorrow.
  3. You are only human.
  4. What would you say to a friend in the same situation? Follow your own advice, hypocrite.

As the festive season arrives, and as the cold weather leads to more sniffles and coughs, take this lesson for yourself. Take the time to breathe, sleep, relax, eat, drink, and be with the people in your life. You will never regret the time you choose to rest, because it will feed into the quality of your work and happiness.

Enjoy the last snippets of 2021, and remember that 2022 is a new year, with new chances, and more time.


Where will I go? London knows
Who will I be? London knows
When will this end? Will I be myself again?
Because I’m coming home.
London Knows, Anna Straker

Article recommendations!

Two years ago, I read Daisy Jones and the Six* during one VERY long flight to Australia — back when we could still travel! I loved the book, and have been gearing myself up to re-read it. Then I discovered this great article by Savannah Hightower, What “Daisy Jones & The Six” Taught Me About Womanhood, which only served to make me even more excited to pick up this incredible novel again.

As an avid Friends fan, I loved having this longstanding question tackled by Joanna Henderson: How Much Would Monica from “FRIENDS” Had to Earn to Afford Her NYC Apartment?

I started writing online to share my experiences with BPD, and so articles on the subject always stand out to me, as it helps to fill this huge gap in the conversation surrounding this stigmatised mental illness. I definitely recommend reading Megan Holstein’s article: This One Simple Mindset Shift Will Change the Way You See People with Borderline Personality Disorder

And finally, I suggest reading this personal piece by Amanda Kay Oaks. I’ve been a fan of her articles for a while, and I was always impressed by how well they do. But she discusses the flipside of going ‘viral’: Sometimes, I Fantasize About Taking Down My Highest Earning Story. I think this article is so relevant as it’s too easy to forget the person behind an article, especially in a time when online hate runs rampage. Never forget that behind any content creator is a human being, trying their best and learning as they go.

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5 Fiction Books Women Should Read in Their Twenties

Looking for something to read as you rest up? Here are five books worth your time! In lists of books that should be read in your twenties, they always focus primarily on non-fiction options. But as an avid fiction lover and writer, I wanted to highlight the books that can help you to cherish this wonderful time whilst also allowing you a fictional escape.

Read more.

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25 Things I’ve Learned by 25

Not up for reading an entire book but still looking for something to pass the time? Well, look no further! I turned twenty-five last month, and took the time to approach the twenty-five lessons I’ve learned, from Brazilian waxes to breakups, Tiktok to tequila shots, and everything in-between.

Read more.

Photo: Kinga Cichewicz / Unsplash

Don’t Forget About Your Hangxiety Friends

This festive season is often accompanied by some drinking, and with that, hangovers or even hangxiety. I am a long-standing sufferer of hangxiety, so I wanted to dive into the topic and educate others on the struggle. In this article, I look into why hangxiety happens, how it feels, who is more prone to it, and how we can best deal with it.

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I don’t have anything new to say, just a new way of saying it. This will be the home of my newsletters and other pieces that don’t quite fit elsewhere, as they deserve a place in this madness too.

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