Escaping the Confidence Trap

Kryptonite for the negative mind

Confidence is a trap which ranges from self-punishment to insufferable arrogance. It’s about honesty and the apportioning of blame: most of the time, we are pinned to the ground by a lack of self-belief, an inability to conceive that we are worthy of praise, or even that we deserve to win, whatever that goal is that we are striving for. A lot of the time, the match, the competition, is lost before it has even been played, because the game was already lost in your head. Somehow, people have learned to label themselves as “not good”, so they don’t even try.

Sports, love, happiness, family, friends, work, joy, learning, developing, collaborating, teamwork, and leadership, are shot down in flames, again and again. What by? By an illogical habit that has overpowered your reasoning and occupies your mind. The number of times I have seen people walk away from fulfilling their potential because of a fear of failure makes we want to cry.

Self-belief, self-confidence, begins with creating a logic: when you’re faced with the voice and feelings in your head that betray you, you will require a counterargument. You have to create a leverage that begins a mental coup d’état, because once you start this process of seizing power from this imposter… well, then you need to find its weak point.
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