Who is your Role Model?

I have never been able to answer this question.There is no one person I can confidentially say that I see them as a hero or a role model (probably because I am too critical, but that is a story for another day).

It has always bothered me as I never knew how to answer the role model question, and I was asked that question countless times. A couple years ago I came across an article on LinkedIn about Matthew McConaughey’s Speech at the Oscars.

Matthew said, in far more words, that his role model is him in 10 years’ time. This might sound completely narcissistic but it isn’t. Let me explain.

A section of Matthew McConaughey’s Oscar Speech:

When I was 15 years old, I had a very important person in my life come to me and say, “Who’s your hero?” And I said, “I don’t know, I’ve got to think about that. Give me a couple of weeks.” I come back two weeks later, this person comes up and says, “Who’s your hero?” I said, “I thought about it……… It’s me in 10 years.” So I turned 25. Ten years later, that same person comes to me and says, “So, are you a hero?” And I was like, “Not even close! No!” She said, “Why?” I said, “Because my hero’s me at 35.”

From this humbling speech I can now say with conviction that I will be my own role model. It is me in 10 years’ time. I choose to be the best version of myself. I will always be striving to be my own hero, I don’t know who I will be in 10 years’ time but I trust that it is a better me.

As a wonderful and wise woman once said

“I didn’t know what I wanted to do, but I always knew the women I wanted to be.”
— Diane Von Furstenberg

An old cliché comes to mind, be the person you want to look up to. So whether you are a fan of Matthew or not I feel there is a lot inspiration that can be drawn from his speech, it is a humble and candid speech. You do not need to think of yourself as your hero but rather think of yourself as continuously growing, learning and striving to be a better person.

(This post was orginally published on LinkedIn)