IT IS BETTER TO BE INTERESTED RATHER THAN TO BE INTERESTING

Ammara Saeed
Jul 25, 2017 · 3 min read

I read the chapter 1:” Do this and you will be be welcome anywhere” from How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. After reading this chapter I learned that people are not interested in knowing about yourselves they only love to talk about themselves. in the chapter, it was written that the New York telephone company conducted a detail survey on telephone conversation to find out which word is frequently used. It is personal pronoun “I”. it was used 3900 times in 500 telephone conversation. People need to know you care. So ditch started listening. I learned that be active listener, you can show people that you’re interested in them by eye contact, responding to them, by frequently asking questions it shows them that you are sincere about them, you care about them. The story of Mr, Thuston in the book, who was a magician shows that how he become successful in his life by two rules. First give priority or attention to audience and second one is that put your personality across footlights. He says “I love my audience” . I also learned that if a person want to show interest in other. He should not be self-centered but give priority and attention to other. Like when the writer does not consider the interest of readers while writing then readers will not read his writings. When I applied same thing in my project I found the same thing that the idea of being interested rather than interesting is helpful in wining people. Its in human nature he is hungry for importance. It also has double benefits not only you become well liked by friends, family but you learn more about the people and world around you.

The interested challenge

We were given the interested challenge to better understand the mentality of interviewer to understand why it is better to be interested rather than interesting. To be interesting means that we have some skills, we are capable to do something while siting to another person we only focus on ourselves what we are, what we are doing etc and being interested means that we are interested in knowing others. In interested challenge for the entire 24 hours we have to focus on asking question from others. I did this challenge with my neighborhood friend. I asked her question about her studies, about her hobbies, her family members, her priorities in life like family, money, relationships, success etc and much more. I showed keen interest in her that I am passionate to know more about here.

My experience:

The most amazing thing happened after this conversation was that she started ask questions about me than I realized that it is better to be interested than interesting because if a person shows interest in other listens her ideas, concerns, priorities in life ultimately that person will interested in you.

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