10 Tactics Narcissists Use to Keep You Under Control
Maintaining power in the relationship
It’s a confusing, emotional maze.
If you’ve been with a narcissist (or are still with them) you’ll understand exactly what this means.
It’s love that blows hot and cold, love that’s built on shifting sand, that leads you to doubt yourself, your worth and — finally — your reality.
Narcissists are masters (or mistresses) of control. They deploy tactics to keep you on the hook — their hook — undermining your thoughts, feelings, behaviours and self-belief until it’s almost too late.
Almost. Keep that word in your sights.
Because there’s another life waiting.
From the narcissist file
I don’t work with many narcissists.
Those who do sign up for therapy don’t stay long. They don’t enjoy the scrutiny, they don’t want anyone to see behind the mask. They don’t risk letting it slip, even a tiny bit.
It’s not possible to diagnose a narcissist by proxy — from their partner’s report. That would be wrong, as well as unprofessional.
But, over the years, I’ve compiled my own file of narcissist behaviours and ways of operating, which includes…
