7 Signs Your Partner is ‘Good Enough’ for You

Here is a story about a young man who couldn’t find a girlfriend.

He dated lots of women but none of them made it to the third date — even when she was keen, he called time on it.

Frustrated, he came up with the idea of a checklist, detailing all the things he sought in a woman. I didn’t see the checklist but things like hot, outgoing, laughs loudly at my jokes and great-at-sex-without-having-had-much always rate a mention.

Each date was given points out of 10 in each category which dictated his decision to pursue her — or not.

“Do you think that’s a good way to find love?” I asked, carefully avoiding words like shallow and phrases like destined-for-disaster.

He smiled back.

I didn’t see him for a while after that — possibly because his social calendar was brimming — but a few weeks later he emailed to say he’d binned the checklist. “It was dumb and a bit mean,” he said.

It was indeed dumb and a bit mean, but I wrote back kindly because he was a lovely man who’d just been carried away with all the choice the online dating world had thrown at him.

With so many options, why would he settle for average? Why wouldn’t he seek perfection? Why wouldn’t he wait until all the stars aligned and…