7 Signs You’re Not a Narcissist

You’re not. But just in case you know someone...

Karen Nimmo
On The Couch
Published in
4 min readAug 5, 2020

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Are you a narcissist?

It’s (hopefully) not a question most of us ask ourselves. But being in a toxic relationship can make you wonder.

Toxicity can play such havoc with your emotions and psyche you lose sight of who you are. It can make you behave strangely — even badly, turning you into someone you barely recognise.

I’ve seen both men and women struggling in the wake of toxic or abusive relationships and there’s often a nagging doubt about their own role. Do I have some narcissistic traits too?

Hopefully the answer is yes — because it’s a good thing. Some narcissistic traits are healthy: indicative of confidence or good self-esteem.

It’s just that when a relationship has turned you upside down, it’s hard to figure out where the line begins and ends.

So What’s Narcissism in a Relationship?

“How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.” — Amanda Torroni

Clinically speaking, Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a mental health condition, characterised by an extreme self-focus coupled with…

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Karen Nimmo
On The Couch

Clinical psychologist, author of 4 books. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for health and happiness. karen@onthecouch.co.nz