7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship — Without Telling Your Partner

You have more control than you think.

Karen Nimmo
On The Couch
Published in
4 min readNov 29, 2020

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Therapy is often seen as the antidote to a struggling relationship.

That couples need to hash out their disputes in a therapy room, in the presence of a soft-voiced, non-judgemental relationship counsellor.

While it’s true therapy can help, most couples wait an average six years before signing up. By then, their dysfunctional habits are often so embedded in the relationship, it’s tough to dig them out.

And that can mean therapy becomes more war zone than a place for learning, listening and peaceful resolution.

There’s another way, though, to improve your relationship and to be a good, or better, partner. And that’s to work on yourself, to understand who you are and how you roll in a relationship.

7 Ways to Improve Your Relationship — Without Telling Your Partner

“The greatest compliment that was ever paid me was when one asked me what I thought, and attended to my answer.” — Henry David Thoreau

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Karen Nimmo
On The Couch

Clinical psychologist, author of 4 books. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for health and happiness. karen@onthecouch.co.nz