8 Signs Your Partner’s Attachment Style is Disorganised
How it’ll play out for you.
A man was feeling exhausted by his partner.
She was always “on”, always doing a million things, there was so much drama and conflict, including rage. He felt like she had no “off” switch.
“I used to find it kind of exciting,” he said. “But, life’s so crazy all the time, now I just feel burned out.”
When helping people with their mental health, it’s important to identify the psychosocial factors maintaining their struggles, such as the domestic stress in this man’s case.
It’s not possible — nor is it ethical — to diagnose a person’s partner from afar, without a proper, individual assessment. But it can be helpful to consider what might be driving certain behaviours.
On further exploration, it seemed possible his partner’s behaviours were linked to an disorganised attachment style.
What’s Disorganised Attachment?
Attachment is the bond we form with early caregivers, usually a parent. And research suggests these can play out in our adult relationships — although it’s important to note there are other influential factors.
