Feeling Lonely? 8 Strategies For When It Hurts Most

Karen Nimmo
On The Couch
Published in
4 min readFeb 12, 2020

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Ouch. You’re feeling the burn of loneliness.

Maybe it’s been triggered by a romantic occasion, like Valentine’s Day or a friend’s wedding? Maybe you’re struggling with grief or loss?

Maybe you’re in a relationship but it feels like someone pulled the plug on the connection? Or you’re surrounded by others but you just don’t feel The Fit?

Loneliness hurts, and while it doesn’t make the official manuals of psychological disorder, therapists are always scouting for it because of its potential to harm mental health.

Most loneliness, and its symptoms, are temporary. But, when it digs in over time, it can develop into depression and anxiety, lurk behind addictions, erode self-esteem and trigger a raft of physical health problems.

What To Do: 8 Strategies For When Loneliness Bites

Studies indicate up to 75% of us will feel lonely at some point in our lives.

It is often tied to circumstances, such as the end of a relationship, the loss of someone close to you or a move to a new city. But or it can also strike in unexpected ways — even when you’re in a good space.

It can roar up on the back of a significant date, an invitation that reminds you you’re on…

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Karen Nimmo
On The Couch

Clinical psychologist, author of 4 books. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for health and happiness. karen@onthecouch.co.nz