The Single Worst Trait of Toxic Relationships
What to do when you feel trapped by it
If you’ve been in a toxic relationship you’ll get it: You’ll know, all too well, the hallmark traits.
You’ll probably be an amateur expert on it; tried to unpack what drives toxicity; you’ll have checked all the boxes, know the red flags by heart.
And you may have your own idea as to the single worst trait is. The one that rises to the top every time.
Let’s see if it’s the same as mine.
It’s not grandiose self-appraisal, nor lack of empathy.
It’s not the judgment or critique. It’s not the lies, lies and more lies.
It’s not even gaslighting.
Yes, all those things can be part of the picture. But, pull them apart and you can trace them back to one thing.
Control.
“You make me feel like a firefly. Trapped in a bell jar; starved for love.” — Ayushee Ghoshal
Let’s Do It My Way
Many relationships begin with an element of power struggle as we adapt to, and get used to, being with another.
