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The Top 3 Things Couples Do Wrong When They Fight
The first step to turning it around
The couple on my couch were miserable.
Their once close, loving relationship had descended into a daily war of words, small incidents or comments igniting stand-offs that could last for days.
They both said they wanted to stay together (although it was difficult to see why). In different ways, each was desperate for more attention from the other but their spiky interactions were pushing them in the opposite direction.
“We’re all out of ideas,” the woman said. “But it can’t go on like this.”
Therapy sees no shortage of couples like this.
For those who get to a place where each is so sensitive to being triggered by something the other says or does, life doesn’t have much light.
Their mental health and wellbeing slowly declines as they begin to question their future together.
Why do we fight? Let us count the ways.
“… perhaps the very best season of your relationship isn’t behind you. Perhaps it’s still in your future, still yet to come, waiting to be created.” — Crismarie…
