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There’s a Simple Secret to Lasting Love. It’s This.
Alain de Botton offers us the best question to ask when you’re getting to know someone.
Boom! You’ve met someone you REALLY like.
When you’re together you feel that heady mix of chill and excited, you want to get to know them better.
Your best friend asks the hard question: have you been your true self with them? You nod, excitedly. You’ve “done you” and they haven’t run screaming for the exit door.
But that’s not the whole truth, is it? You haven’t wrenched back the curtain on your particular brand of crazy. You’ve only opened it a crack. And, if you’re honest, you know your new partner has done the same thing to you.
In the early stages of a relationship we don’t reveal who we truly are. Of course we don’t/ We present airbrushed versions not so much for deceptive reasons, but because we don’t even know ourselves.
We can’t. Because our craziness doesn’t rise to the surface all at once. It continues to bubble up, often unpredictably, throughout our lives.
Your Love Origin
We tell ourselves that the goal in romantic love is happiness. But where it gets tricky is that we often come from places in which love and…
