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When Your Partner Won’t Say How They Feel: 5 Break-Through Tips

A mismatch in emotional expression is commonly described in therapy. But the answer is not to press your quieter partner into being the same as you. Try this approach instead.

Karen Nimmo
Jun 11, 2019 · 4 min read

So Tell Me How You Feel!

1. Rate your own Emotional Expression.

2. Ask WHY you want to know (how they feel).

3. Ask WHY your partner may be quiet?

4. Read the room.

5. Clock their behaviour towards YOU.



On The Couch

Practical psychology for everyday life.

Karen Nimmo

Written by

Clinical psychologist, writer. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for everyday life. karen@onthecouch.co.nz

On The Couch

Practical psychology for everyday life. Owned/Edited by clinical psychologist and writer Karen Nimmo.

Karen Nimmo

Written by

Clinical psychologist, writer. Editor of On the Couch: Practical psychology for everyday life. karen@onthecouch.co.nz

On The Couch

Practical psychology for everyday life. Owned/Edited by clinical psychologist and writer Karen Nimmo.

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