You Bottle Your Emotions — and It’s Limiting Your Life
Breaking free of the “bottle” will improve your relationships, as well as your life
I worked with a man who was having marriage troubles.
He and his wife were booked to begin couple therapy (with another therapist, obviously). But he accepted he had personal work to do.
“I’ve got stuff from back there,” he said, waving a hand to indicate his past. “I’ve ignored it for too long.”
He was a thoroughly nice man. Intelligent. Hard-working. Well-meaning. Decent sense of humour. Loved his wife and kids. Absolutely committed to his therapy sessions.
He completed all his homework exercises. Did extra reading. Rocked up to each session with a list of (good) questions.
He was up for doing all he could to improve himself. But he had one almighty block, which made therapy excruciating for him.
Emotions.
Living with a “fixer”
There can be all sorts of reasons for emotional struggles, including some neurodiverse conditions.
But the difficulty is that people who don’t “do” emotions will struggle to understand and accept them. And because emotions make them squirmy…
