I hate when someone confidently announces that something bad is going to happen.
Thoughts are things, right?
Want to improve the quality of your own life and do the same for others?
Learn to recognize what I call mental malpractice.
Reject it when you hear it, and stop yourself from spreading it to others.
Mental malpractice is when we think or speak a negative, pessimistic thought toward another person.
Here are some common, daily examples:
I made a comment to a friend one afternoon remarking that I hadn’t had any caffeine that day.
“You’ll have a good headache tonight!” she said without skipping a beat.
Ummmm, no I won’t. And no, I didn’t.
My husband’s office mates had been sick all week.
“You’ll be next!” a coworker warned him.
Guess who didn’t get sick. You got it, my husband.
We aren’t total jerks, so why do people aim these thoughts at people they care about?
These are good and kind people, right?
People mistakenly believe these warnings are actually expressions of concern.
They’re motivated out of the fear of the undesired thing happening.
In reality, it’s just a habit. A learned social behavior picked up from others.
Chances are pretty good you wouldn’t tell your friend,
“I hope you get a bad headache tonight!”
or stick your head into someone’s office and say,
“I hope you get sick!”
Like I said, we aren’t total jerks!
But betting or warning someone of a crappy outcome is affirming for that crappy thing to happen.
It also plants seeds of fear and doubt in the other person’s thought.
Have you ever had someone ask,
“Do you feel ok? You look tired today”?
Where does your thought immediately go?
“Oh wow, maybe I’m getting sick…I hope I’m not getting sick…I feel kind of sick…”
If you have a concern for someone’s well being, silently pull back from your fearful thoughts, and affirm that the person is perfect, whole and complete right now.
Associations we have about effects and consequences are nothing more than learned human thought, and these thoughts don’t have to be true.
They’re made up.
You’ll be a lot more helpful to the person if you keep the negative thought to yourself and counter it with something positive instead.
We hear negative, and pessimistic statements all over the place, and not just concerning health.
We hear doom and gloom messages daily about finances, the state of the government, and the condition of the environment.
We hear beliefs about limitations of age, race and gender.
You name it, people have an unlimited supply of theories about what can go wrong in this world and why we should be held back in it.
Want a good remedy for mental malpractice?
Reject it. “I reject that thought” or “I reject that belief” are strong statements that ground you in the truth.
The truth that you are governed by an all-knowing, all-loving, ever-present Universal Intelligence. That’s the only truth you’re subject to.
You were born to thrive!
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