Things We’d Tell Our Mothers
This Mother’s Day, what will you say? By Shannon Emmerson.
We don’t always say the things that need to be said. Maybe because it’s not the right time. Or maybe we can’t find the time. At any time, it’s frightening to put it out there. And it’s terrifying to imagine the reaction.
But it’s so important.
In our work as storytellers, we have learned that the most powerful stories are told from the heart, and show the cracks that make us human. And that builds a foundation for genuine connection.
In the making of our #whatwillyousay Mother’s Day video, we brought kids of all ages together to share their stories about their mothers, and encouraged them to tell their moms what was in their hearts. We’ve since opened the conversation to friends, colleagues, and readers around the world. Here are a few of our favourite responses to the #whatwillyousay invitation.
“You have partners, you have friends, and you have kids, but there is nobody else who will ever care about you as much.” ~Frances
“The thing that I wish I could have done more of, is thanking her.” ~Elena
“I miss my mom. I love you mom, wherever you are.” ~Aruna
“I would tell my mom she was the best mom and I love and appreciate how she raised me.” ~Dorothy
“It didn’t matter what kind of shape I was in, I could always come home to mom…My mom was basically the glue that held me together.” ~Harry
When I left the Philippines, I knew my son would be in good hands, because I knew that my mom would take care of him … My son now he always tells me, I love you mama. But for 48 years I realize I didn’t say I love you to my mom. I love you, mom. ~Novi
“I tell my mom I love her whenever I’m with her! So grateful to still have my mom.” ~Eloisa
“I do remember my mother saying to [my dad] when there was an argument about something I’d done–she said: ‘you don’t want to hurt her spirit.’ I remember that. ~Ellie
“My mom was diagnosed with a really rare disease about 12 hours before she died, so we didn’t get a lot of time to talk or to say goodbye. But she did get to say that she loved me, which were her last words. And I cherish that, because I have been able to hang onto it. You were a good mom. You did really good.” ~Jennifer
“I would say I love and appreciate I love that she’s the first person I talk to every morning and the last person I talk to at night. I love you mom.” ~Anitra
“I’m probably going to say to my mom: you’re a wonderful person, and you’re my mentor.” ~Cian
“I tie an invisible string to my heart, and she ties the same one to her heart, and it’s always attached together.” ~Bookie
“My mother, she struggled a lot with addiction. And it was hard. I can think of three words: I forgive you.” ~Patrice
Remember: the best gift for mom this Mother’s Day isn’t a pedicure or a new gardening trowel (although those are nice). Tell her what’s in your heart.