Star Wars Episode VI: Return of the Jedi

Date #757 — Wednesday, December 16th, 2015

A: Woah, I was tired when watching this. I totally fell asleep (but not before petting and playing with our two cats for our ADVENTure calendar activity!! They loveeeeed it.). Yes, I’m ashamed! I was really loving this one, too. I remember this one the most clearly of all them, oddly enough. Re-watching the series has been so fun. B asked me if I’d ever seen the originals on the big screen and I said I hadn’t, but had watched them with my dad. His response taught me something: he sees my dad is a negative light. I know my relationship with my dad… well, it isn’t the best… we still keep in touch but we don’t really have a bond. There’s a lot that’s happened between my dad and I but one thing I am extremely grateful and thankful for his my dad’s love for movies and his want/need to share it with me. The one thing we have most in common is our love for cinema and this is a really precious notion for me because it’s really the biggest connection — maybe only connection — I have with my dad. That I know of, anyway. He’s a very closed person. I said, “Hey, be nice to my dad. This is one thing I really like about him!” and B thought about that and said, “Well, the point of Star Wars is to not dwell on things!” (or something like that..). I said, “Maybe my dad is trying hard and we just don’t realize it,” and, of course, B goes, “Do or do not! There is no try!” It was a funny moment. :O)

B: Like I said in the last post, there is a lot of amazing advice in Star Wars (basically the Jedi are Buddhists). Anyways, I try to understand and be respectful of A’s relationship with her parents. It’s different from my relationship with my parents. Just as I hope that she is respectful of the nuances of my relationship with them, I need to be respectful of the relationship with hers.

Actually, when A said “My Dad really likes Star Wars,” I hoped that some of the amazing lessons from the film sunk in.


Episode VI was also pretty great. I think it’s a bit cheesy in comparison to IV and V. What really struck me is how evident Darth Vader’s internal conflict is. When Luke confronts him on Endor it was so clear that Vader didn’t want to turn him over to the Emperor. There’s a very revealing line that I think speaks to Star Wars larger focus on the Sibling-Parent relationship and expectations. It’s when Vader says to Luke, “It’s too late for me, son.” It’s like Darth is warning Luke while admitting his regret. It’s such a heavy, beautiful moment.

I was so excited when the film was done (and kind of sad). The next day we would be at the premiere of Star Wars VII: The Force Awakens!!! I never dreamed I would be sharing moments like these with someone who cares as much as I do and who’s own perspective makes them better.

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