Dear Lucia

I had been meaning to write to you while you were in your mom’s belly, but you surprised us by coming a little early! Maybe that’s the first lesson — you can’t plan everything, which knowing your genes you’re likely to think you can. But I’m glad you’re here now; I couldn’t wait to meet you either.

I wanted to impart upon you some fatherly advice for making your way in the world. Granted, it’ll be a few years until you can read this, and many more until you’ll understand it. But as much as a letter to you, it’s just as much a reminder to myself about what’s really important, what values I really care about sharing with you. Without further ado, a few things I’ve learned:

  • Surround yourself with the best people you can find. Under no circumstance compromise on this issue.
  • You can have anything you want if you work hard enough for it and get lucky. But you can’t have everything you want; choose wisely.
  • Stick up for the little guy. Better yet, help them no longer be the little guy.
  • The only opinions that matter are those of the people who matter. We’ll revisit this issue in greater detail before high school. In fact, I’m sending you an Outlook invite now for Saturday, August 26th, 2028 for us to watch Mean Girls together.
  • Find a problem that’s so important to you that you’ll spend your life working on it.
  • Resist the temptation to tell someone how much you despise them — you’ll almost certainly feel worse afterwards. The opposite is true of telling someone how much you love them.
  • Try every kind of food and art you can find; someone somewhere thought it was good, and maybe you will too.
  • Time is the only truly scarce resource you have; spend it doing what you really care about.
  • Love, really is, all you need.

Part of me wishes you could stay this small, but I’m looking forward to watching you grow up. And I’m looking forward to you teaching me new things about the world.

One clap, two clap, three clap, forty?

By clapping more or less, you can signal to us which stories really stand out.