Column

Fifteen Reasons Most Men Can’t Handle a Strong, Independent Woman

It’s us on whom you stand, It’s us on whom you achieve; It’s us on whom you rely, but It’s also us whom you deny

The Opinioc Team
Jul 24, 2020 · 5 min read

By Riya Handa

It’s easy to spot an independent, strong woman walking down the street. We hold our head a little higher and have an unavoidable vibe that one can’t ignore!

There are women who have been successful in their ventures while a few others still wait for their chances of success. So, what separates these two from each other? Where lays their strengths and weaknesses? What defines their happy lives and unhappy ones?

The bric-a-brac of reflections on women does give us insights about the dichotomy existing in their lives and that provides us the adumbration of facts differentiating the independent women from others. From becoming social media behemoths to their roles at homes, independent women have carved every niche for themselves using their pyrotechnics in every field. We do admire their comfortable life of haute couture. They do have the potential to obliterate every social stigma faltering their ladders of success.

So, off-chance, if you are looking to kick-start and take your life to the next level, consider what stepping out of your comfort zone, into an unknown realm by yourself might do for you. An independent life can be the game-changer for you. You may never have shown such brilliance of display if once, you act independently.

Let me break down in fifteen points that may certainly become the idyllic spot for independent women to go and yes, men do find it difficult to handle to see women in those ways!

1) She takes herself out for dinner; Hell yeah! Take yourself on a dinner date:

We love to enjoy our meal on our own, right? We don’t need a company every time we go out for lunch or dinner. People need to understand that it’s not a girl waiting for a man to join or to seek attention. Hell yeah, it makes us confident.

2) She’s always on the go:

Girls, remember how some men wait for one reply? Still don’t give a damn! Stay busy exploring places and meeting new people! There is no need for a charming prince to come. Just live your life to the fullest. Mr. Right will catch up eventually.

3) She breaks away from the crowd whenever possible:

Admit it, crowds are not less than herds. And guess what does the herd do? Yeah! You’re thinking right. That’s why a strong woman breaks away from the crowd whenever they can because we know that the action isn’t happening where the people are: it’s happening where the locals are. This is especially true of high tourism areas around the world. Want to live a different life? Live it away from the crowd.

4) We need a man, not a grown-up boy:

No matter how strong and independent we are, we may sometimes need a partner on our side, but yes, not anyone fits. We look for a soul mate, not a teenage love. Someone who will see and treat us as their equal and respect that we have our own life to live.

5) She knows her worth:

Even if people don’t see it, we know what we bring to the table and yes, we are not about to tell anyone anything different. Some will love us for it and some will hate us, but don’t try to care either way.

6) She loves to travel alone:

Cannot deny this! It’s the basic and easiest way to get one step closer to evolve as a strong and independent woman. Having a partner isn’t necessary for a romantic getaway. Whether it’s a solo road trip or sightseeing — it allows you to ponder over your thoughts, get yourself soaked in the experiences, and least worry about entertaining others along the way.

7) She doesn’t put up bullshit from people:

Whether it is her husband or stranger, we don’t take crap from anyone. Life is too short to let others dictate how we need to live our life.

8) We’re happy to pay bills:

Dinner with friends? Sounds great. We are always happy to pick up the tab for a meal. We got our act together and never stay back when it comes to taking care of our people. Funny enough, this does make a few men insecure.

9) She buys herself gifts:

It feels good when we receive gifts, but we love to reward ourselves for hard work. After all, the longest relationship we will ever have is the one we are in with ourselves. We don’t need a man for gifts. Shouldn’t we treat ourselves with kindness and love the way we want others to treat us?

10) She doesn’t hang out with needy people:

Clingy, needy people are not on our radar because we like to keep them out of our life. We need relationships that feed our soul, not suck the life out of them.

11) Her goal comes first:

This is something most of the girls ignore due to the lack of confidence or maybe for the sake of a few relationships. A happy independent woman will always put her goals above everything else. She won’t pander to others who need her attention because they can’t get their act together.

12) She can spoil herself:

Strong, independent women are mostly underrated! Why? Because people think we want them. But not actually, we like to buy our own things and show to the world that we don’t need anyone to buy it for us. Sure, it might look like extravagant spending to some, but it is the self-love that makes us do so.

13) She doesn’t need anyone:

You might think a life of solitude is lonely but an independent woman doesn’t have to spend her life alone. We don’t like to attach our emotions to everyone around us. Remember, soul mate? Yes, we are old souls.

14) She knows what she wants:

Whether we share our dreams with the world or not, we know what we want in life and are willing to go after it, no matter what.

15) She doesn’t say she’s sorry:

We don’t make apologies for being this way. We choose to live like that. If you don’t like it, believe me, we really don’t care.

At last, It’s us on whom you stand, It’s us on whom you achieve; It’s us on whom you rely, but It’s also us whom you deny.

— — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — — —

Riya Handa is a writer, calligraphist, blogger, women activist. Her writings can be reached at 3ampeople.com

Note: This article has been originally published in 3ampeople.com without certain edits.

Read more stories on Opinioc:

Opinioc

Connecting Opinion, Sprawling Intellect

Sign up for Letter From The Editors

By Opinioc

Opinioc is an analysis and opinion based publication that believes in encouraging the plurality of thought and voice, by listening to the unheard Take a look.

By signing up, you will create a Medium account if you don’t already have one. Review our Privacy Policy for more information about our privacy practices.

Check your inbox
Medium sent you an email at to complete your subscription.

The Opinioc Team

Written by

A platform with a multitude of themes for artists, and a one-stop solution catering to the needs of the present generation business.

Opinioc

Opinioc

An analysis and opinion-based publication conceptualized by the “Children of Conflict”. Write to us at opinioc@outlook.com or submissions@opinioc.com

The Opinioc Team

Written by

A platform with a multitude of themes for artists, and a one-stop solution catering to the needs of the present generation business.

Opinioc

Opinioc

An analysis and opinion-based publication conceptualized by the “Children of Conflict”. Write to us at opinioc@outlook.com or submissions@opinioc.com

Medium is an open platform where 170 million readers come to find insightful and dynamic thinking. Here, expert and undiscovered voices alike dive into the heart of any topic and bring new ideas to the surface. Learn more

Follow the writers, publications, and topics that matter to you, and you’ll see them on your homepage and in your inbox. Explore

If you have a story to tell, knowledge to share, or a perspective to offer — welcome home. It’s easy and free to post your thinking on any topic. Write on Medium

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store