What I Learn from the Black Men in My Life

Part I: How not to silence myself

Tre L. Loadholt
Jul 31, 2019 · 9 min read

“I don’t know. Maybe surviving prison, coming home, becoming a husband and father, even a deacon.”

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“African Man” by Konstantin Yegorovich Makovsky, 1882

“At the very least, this becomes mentally draining; eventually, though, this can become psychologically damaging.”

“At this point, I’m always aware of and prepared for ridicule or discrimination. I would love to be freed from this constant burden, or at least oblivious to it.”

Who will you listen to? What do you hear? How will you learn?

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Tre L. Loadholt

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I’m more than breath & bones, I’m nectar in waiting — Owner ACG •Editor PSILY •Writing for the cosmos. •https://acorneredgurl.com

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Tre L. Loadholt

Written by

I’m more than breath & bones, I’m nectar in waiting — Owner ACG •Editor PSILY •Writing for the cosmos. •https://acorneredgurl.com

Our Human Family

​Our Human Family celebrates the inherent value of all human beings by fostering conversation on achieving equality.

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