5 Signs You’re Trying to Force a Relationship That Just Isn’t Right

When your significant other isn’t “The one”.

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There was a time in my life where I would go to the grocery store, see a cute guy, and wonder what our kids would look like.

There were times where I would casually walk by someone, and I’d wonder if they were falling in love with me. It felt like second nature to jump into thoughts of a life together before even figuring out his name.

Occasionally, those fleeting moments would turn into something more. I’m not shy when it comes to relationships; I’ll say what I want. However, I’ve been shy and uncomfortable in admitting the fact that sometimes the people I wanted so badly ended up being completely wrong for me.

Everybody has that one — or even multiple people that they stayed with simply out of complacency or fear of being alone. What can be done when you meet someone who seems like they meet all your criteria, but when you go to bed late at night, you wonder what your life would look like if someone else were in their place.

Chemistry is a really weird thing; I’ve personally only felt it with two individuals in my life. One of them wasn’t even someone I dated; it was a casual thing.

It’s hard to put your finger on what’s missing because if you’ve never experienced it in the first place, you don’t exactly know what it is. You try so hard to make it work, but maybe trying is the problem.

If you’re in a relationship right now, here are a few signs to look out for if you feel like you’re trying to force a partnership to happen that simply isn’t meant to be.

You have to do something a little extra to make yourself feel comfortable — or more attracted to them.

Have you ever been in a situation where your partner wants to go out, and you immediately think of what friends are available for you to invite because you don’t feel comfortable being alone with them?

Or, have you ever felt like you had to have a few drinks to feel more attracted towards them?