Be Careful Who You Invest IN

Sometimes what seems to be self-explanatory gets neglected. I’m learning that a situation(ship) is not the same as a relationship. No matter how much we try to make it so. A relationship is not the same as a marriage. No matter how much we try to make it so.

I’m learning to guard my investment. I’m not talking about holding back per se or having an unnecessary wall up. I am referring to what seems to be a mainstream push to convince us that it’s OK to invest all of who we are, where there is no commitment.

We are often bombarded with images of “couples” who aren’t even couples. They’re just enjoying the moment I suppose. I’ve indulged in enough of that behavior to last me a lifetime, and as a result I’ve learned that all of the time that I’ve spent with people, all of those experiences, regardless if they felt good or not, are non-refundable.

I not only can’t get them back, I now have to carry the residue of those experiences with me. So I’ve decided it’s best not to give myself to someone prematurely and I have found it more advantageous to line up my level of investment with the level of consistent commitment coming from another person. I encourage you to do the same.