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Excuses For Staying In “Almost Relationships”
Reasons why we settle when we should just move on.
First, I’ll admit I was the queen of finding men that weren’t right for me, and subsequently honing in on the few tiny reasons that justified sticking around. I was chronically dissatisfied with my love life, and while I couldn’t think of much else, I still couldn’t figure out how to move from the in-between into the realm of full-blown dating.
I made every excuse in the book for why I stayed. Hell, I even managed to convince myself that I was doing the right thing by sticking around. So if I can help at least one person think twice about settling by sharing my own experiences, let’s get to it.
Here’s a list of the most common excuses I made for sticking around, and the detailed explanations for why I shouldn’t have:
1. “But he acts like my boyfriend (when we’re together!)”
This excuse is based on a false narrative. If he really acted like my boyfriend, he would have paid attention to me not just when we’re together, but also when we’re apart. If someone showers me with affection face-to-face but not we’re not in the same room, they’re acting as a friend with benefits — at best.
