Get over it by going through it
It is what it is…eventually, at some point in your life, you will feel bad, you will go through some low moments. This might be too harsh for your ears to handle, but it is the reality you and I and everyone around us will face sooner or later. Everybody says that it all boils down to how you look at it and it makes sense. You can get over your suffering by seeing it just as another lesson you are gifted with, or you can see it as a joke that life pulls on you with no bad intention at all. There are several scenarios you can go through with your suffering, if you choose to, of course. However, the thing that all these alternatives have in common is that, no matter how you decide to deal with your low moments, you will have to go through them.
Avoiding bad thoughts, or the effects of some bad decisions you made or some people that you just don’t want to deal with is not going to work. At least, it will not work in your best interest, better said. As much as you force your entire system to ignore the negativity, you won’t get to remove it completely from your life. No matter how big of an effort you’ll put out there just to cover up the bad, it will eventually rise and bloom when you least expect it.
The fact of the matter is that your soul cannot hold too much of it, it has its limits. Throwing those bad thoughts, for instance, in the drawers of your heart, locking them up and throwing away the key won’t work either. They will grow and grow until they will basically break out of there.
Such thoughts are similar to those nasty weeds messing with our beautiful flowers. No matter what you do, they will still show up. You could turn to all sorts of special solutions to poison them, but these won’t do your flowers any good, right? So the healthiest and safest way to deal with them is to actually confront them and pull them out with your own bare hands.
This is exactly what you should do with those low moments life offers you from time to time. You have to go through them to get over them. There is no other way, anyway you’d choose to think about it. You just have to live them and let them fade away because this is what eventually happens: they toss you and they turn you on all sides until they get bored of you.
Now, if you have enough control over yourself and you can continue living your life with this negativity’s noise on the background, then you’re more than fine! We need to understand that bad thoughts, moments when we’re not at our best represent a significant part of our experience and we should never reject them. We cannot control them, but we can control our reaction toward them. We can decide what we’re going to do with these apparently bad gifts life has offered us because such gifts are the best teachers we’ll have.
So here’s an idea: next time you feel bad and stuck in front of an event taking you by surprise, just let it happen. Challenge yourself to see how far you can go with it. Get to feel it in its fullness and cry your tears, sleep on it as much as you feel like and eventually, have a good laugh about it. We only have one life to live and no matter what we do, we’re not getting out of it alive, as many other people have pointed out. So let that bad feeling fulfill its mission within you and be wise enough to get your lessons out of it! Don’t be afraid of it and don’t reject it because you’ll make it even more powerful. You can indeed make friends with your suffering.
