I Didn’t Know How Wounded I Was
How a healthy relationship is helping me heal
Two years ago, it would’ve been hard for me to believe that I would be in a healthy and beautiful relationship with a partner who is kind, sweet, emotionally available, and incredibly loving.
My relationship history has been a series of tears and disappointments, which wasn’t very different from what I saw growing up. My mother had me when she was 18 and divorced my dad a few years later. All throughout my childhood, I saw her hop from one relationship to the next. The things that I saw didn’t exactly make me believe in love.
Throughout the years, I had lost hope of finding a partner who aligned with my values, was emotionally mature, and truly wanted to commit and build.
After my ex and I split up in 2019, I took the time to work on myself and demolish and then re-construct what I believed about relationships and men. I finally decided to focus on the type of partner I wanted to be — rather than just focusing on the kind of partner I wanted to attract.
Fast forward to now: I am in a healthy and loving relationship with a wonderful man. Not only can I proudly call him my boyfriend, but I can also call him a friend — a friend who is supportive, understanding, and who makes me laugh non-stop.
