Sex and the senses
Sex + Sensory Deprivation = Intense pleasure
What is Neuroplasticity? A definition I got from medicinenet.com — Neuroplasticity, also called brain malleability is the brain’s ability to re-organize itself by forming new neural connections throughout life. Neuroplasticity allows the neurons (nerve cells) in the brain to compensate for injury and disease and to adjust their activities in response to new situations or to changes in their environment.
Summary: When a person loses a sense, the body compensates for this lack of sense which leads the other senses to be heightened.
What does Neuroplasticity have to do with sex? Sex and senses go hand in hand. When two people have sex, they want one thing? To feel every inch, see every bit, hear every moan and groan, smell ever scent, and know what they both taste like. The feeling sex gives you is amazing but what if I tell you that it can be heightened, stronger and more intense?
Equation: Sex + Sensory Deprivation = Intense pleasure
When you let science into the four walls of your bedroom, your partner will be like –
I decided to share some new tricks in the bedroom to change things up. However, sensory deprivation was first used in psychological experiments, then later associated with BDSM. For example, when you take away a woman’s sight – she can touch, feel and hear better. When you take away a man’s sense of sound, his sense of touch and sight is heightened.
Since this isn’t a complex, it will be pleasant for you and yours.
- Sense Of Sight
To lose the sense of sight, use a blindfold of a soft material (satin, silk). It is important to use a soft material, so it is easy on the skin. Remember, the goal is to give them nothing but pleasure.
Comfort, not discomfort
After you blindfold your partner, plant a kiss on the lips. Lick and nibble your way down to the neck, bite it gently and go back to licking and nibbling. Play around with your tongue, your partner’s body is your playground. Take as much time doing this, because you need to build anticipation in them. Switch to your partner’s ear, whisper nasty things, and continue nibbling on it. If you aren’t comfortable nibbling on the ear, nibble and gently plant kisses on your partner’s collar bone. Kisses that imply that you have been there and will be back.
- Sense Of Sound
The best way to play around with your partner’s sense of hearing is by either using an earplug or getting an extremely sexual song with breathy verses and moans in the background.
Important tip: This should be done after the loss of sight (blindfold). However, not everyone will be capable of losing more than one sense at a time, because not everybody can handle the loss of all senses at once. It totally depends on your partner and this is why two-way communication is extremely important in the bedroom. Ask them how they feel and if they are comfortable with losing more than two senses at once, then green light.
After the loss of sight and sound, let your partner lay flat on the bed and instruct them not to move a muscle. Get them to relax and enjoy the ride. Turn off all the lights, because all you need are scented candles.
The scented candles is for when you want to play around with your partner sense of smell.
By creating a relaxing atmosphere for your partner, it makes them loosen up even more. The whole idea behind this, is to be extremely quiet (so your partner doesn’t hear you coming or knows what you are doing next). You are going to prowl over there like a cheetah or a lion hunting for dinner. Kiss the stomach, use your fingers to play with the nipples, then stop.
Wait….lick and run your fingers around the neck
American artiste, Kanye West, considers the human voice as the ultimate instrument and I agree. Whisper dirty talks in your partner’s ear as your music plays.
NOTE – These stages should be done accordingly.
- Sense Of Touch
To compensate for loss of sight and sound, your sense of touch will be magnified. Still nibbling on the neck, kiss your way down to your partners nipple. Place your mouth on your the nipple, and twirl your tongue around it slowly. While you are sucking on the right nipple, use your left finger to tease the left nipple. Keep doing this for five more minutes and switch it up by kissing your way down to the stomach. This is where it gets interesting, run ice around your partner’s stomach, let the water drip on the body and stop. Put the ice in your mouth so it makes it cold, then run your mouth around the earlobes, stomach, neck, nipples and lips.
You can eat food off your partner’s body. You can warm up melted chocolate and honey. Spread it over their body (chest area) and let your tongue wander around it like you are looking for a lost treasure.
Pour some scented oil on your body and on your partner’s body. Give them a body massage by rubbing your body against theirs. Don’t use hands, just every inch of your body.
Turn them around and do this:
Women – Grind on the back of your mans body. Let your boobs, ass and curves know every bit like you are measuring his body.
Men – Give her an ass massage and savour the moment. Don’t forget to spank her ass like you own it.
- Sense Of Taste
You need to be careful with this one because it can be a tad bit tricky. Since your partner is blinded folded, they will have no idea of the taste, texture or temperature of the food until it hits their tongue or they bite into it. You don’t want to ruin your partner’s taste-buds by giving them something they don’t like. To play safe, stick to mini food and fruits your partner likes. This will help build anticipation because whatever is going into your partner’s mouth will remain unknown until they accept it.
Fruits – Grapes, watermelon, strawberries, oranges (all chopped/sliced up). You can also play around with chocolate covered food, mini-cakes, ice-cream, whipped cream and marshmallow.
- Sense Of Smell
Start by putting on a cologne that your partner loves — inner wrists, your neck, between your thighs and behind your ear. You don’t want to turn them off, you should smell your best. This will make the experience better and will also make you feel more confident.
Note: Before this, shower and brush your teeth so you don’t offend your partners sense of smell. Please don’t over-do it when it comes to the cologne, don’t bathe yourself in it. Keep it simple.
Who doesn’t love a room that smells nice. You can either get scented candles, scented oils (lavender, cinnamon, orange, vanilla, light some incense or a diffuser to make the place smell nice.
This article was crafted with nothing but love, and I genuinely hope you learnt some few things. Don’t say I didn’t teach you anything and see you guys in my next article.
Don’t forget to have fun.
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