Cutting Them Off Is Not The Answer: Make Healthy Boundaries and Connections Instead
To heal trauma in the present, past, and for generations to come.
There’s been a lot of talk about estrangement and how it’s on-trend. But what if you focus on self-growth so that the excess falls away? What if it becomes cool to stay connected instead of disconnected?
According to Mayo Clinic:
More than one-quarter of American adults cut off contact with a family member […] Family estrangement is a suspension of direct communication between relatives […]. In some families, a series of conflicts are followed by periods of avoidance and withdrawal. In others, an incident — even seemingly unrelated to an underlying tension — can be the “last straw.”
But cutting people off is not the only answer: there are restorative approaches like learning healthy boundaries, accountability, problem-solving, and communication because families don’t just disappear — they’re still your children’s grandparents.
There’s an alternative to the estrangement that has taken such a stronghold of society because I’m not so sure it’s the answer; rather, it can keep us stuck in the past and build resentment.
