Daniel C.
Daniel C. leans against the stairs leading up to the Castro Country Club, a sober house where they have AA meetings and sell sandwiches and Pete’s coffee. He’s a small man, missing some teeth, and years of drug use have obscured his age. I’ve seen him around the neighborhood before and we’ve chatted briefly once or twice.
He came to California because he didn’t know how to stop using at home in Kentucky. Now he’s on the other side of the country, with his southern accent and nowhere to sleep. It’s no comfort that he’s one of many—the thousands who sleep against buildings and in doorways and parks throughout the city each night.
Daniel’s been accepted into a treatment program, but his bed doesn’t open up for another few nights. “How’s it going?” I ask. “Okay,” he says, “but it’s going to be cold tonight and I wish I could take a shower. See,” he holds open a bag of neatly folded clothes, a couple of shirts and a pair of pants. “I washed all my clothes today but I just need to take a shower.” I ask him about staying at a shelter, and he explains the shelters aren’t safe places if you’re trying to stay clean, because they’re full of people selling and using drugs. “Is there anything you can do to help?” He asks me.
My apartment and its white-tiled bathroom — the various shampoos and soaps, the folded towels on the shelf — are all just a block away. And suddenly I can’t remember any of the reasons I wouldn’t invite Daniel C. into my apartment. Denial seems impossible, like a joke or a farce. The distinctions of privilege and possession, nothing more than pretend. Nothing more than a system of dissolvable boundaries and inflatable costumes that we might, if we wanted, dissolve and deflate. “Of course,” I would say. “Come over, you can sleep on the couch.”
But I don’t say this, because I remember my gender — the ever-present element of risk when kindness is confused for more. So I tell Daniel I’ll make some calls to friends, men who might have a couch for him to sleep on. But after an hour I come up with nothing. “What should I do?” I ask a friend on the phone. “You can’t have him over,” he says. “And if you pay for a motel room tonight, when will it stop? What about tomorrow night? And the night after that?” What about the other thousands of men and women sleeping on the street each night? Where will there be room for them all? None of these questions pose reasons not to help one person—slippery slopes and drops in the bucket—but they affect the familiar paralysis. A numb resignation to the way things are in the city.
I pack a cloth bag with some granola bars, a couple of bananas, and a blanket, and I walk back down to 18th St. where Daniel still waits outside. We go to Starbucks and I buy him a sandwich for dinner. It feels much worse than nothing—this sandwich, a juice—empty and unkind.
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