When in Doubt, Examine Your Intentions

The right intentions always produce the right actions.

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Even after taking up temporary celibacy, I continued flirting and asking girls out.

“I won’t go in intending to sleep with them,” “I’ll have a good time and ensure the girl has fun as well.”, “Kissing and fooling around won’t really annul my celibacy.”

Bull f*cking sh*t — but it took a brutally honest conversation with a close friend to see through this illusory web.

I had to burn all my willpower to delete the numbers and cancel the planned dates — but it felt f*cking amazing soon after.

The haze of doubt cleared, and I regained certainty.

The Key Lies in A Simple (but Hard) Choice

Confusion indicates cognitive dissonance — a clear divide between what we believe and what our thoughts or actions reveal.

There are only 2 ways to solve this squeamish internal feeling:

• The easy way. Modify the belief, rationalize it with B.S, and go ahead with the action. In other words — cope.
• The hard path. Reject the action or idea you had in mind. If it’s already done, accept it as a lapse and move on.